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1 | What about song of Soloman? | 1 John 2:16 | Orange | 184352 | ||
First of all, I very much appreciate the 'straightforwardness' of your post. I myselfe do not wish to walk in deciet, and so I don't wish to have answers that are just meant to make me feel better but do not help. Allow me to further my question. Concerning the 'wandering of the eyes', I have long felt that its a difficult situation: On the one hand, when I put to death the urges of the flesh, then I find no familiarity with the passion that was talked about in Song of Soloman (and therefore find no urge to dote on my wife that way that she likes to be doted on). In my heart, I wind up resisting the tendency to enjoy sex and sexuality the way that I feel God intended. This same 'sexual drive' that allows me to look longfully on my wife is the same element that is restrained, and although I find my struggle with 'wandering eyes' becomes easier to bear, yet my husbandly passion wanes. Then, on the other side, when I indulge in my husbandly pursuit, and revel in the graces that God gave me as a man, I find that my sensual senses are heightened, and my 'eyes' want to pick up on everything feminine. My wife loves the way I enjoy every aspect of her womanhood, yet I suffer in that I find it difficult to control it just towards her, since her body is not as in shape as I would like it to be. As you can see, I feel somewhat trapped between the two. This hasn't yet affected my loyalty towards her in the sense that I am not condoning seperation based on physical appearance. I can slowly see myself pushing her to gain control of her weight, in the hopes that my 'sexual eye' can be focused on her instead. Do you think that this is an unrealistic hope? Advice please. |
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2 | What about song of Soloman? | 1 John 2:16 | mark d seyler | 184354 | ||
Hi Orange, Let's talk about food for a moment. You have before you a platter of soy-veggie cakes, and a plate full of chocolate chip cookies that have been laced with arsenic. One is healthy and nutritious, yet with less apparent appeal. The other is more apparently appealing, but will kill you. What is the correct, healthy response? Learn to like the one that's good for you. Not to stop eating altogether. That "wandering eye" you speak of is adulterous. The way God intends you to enjoy sexuality is with your spouse. Any other use is not approved, and is ultimately harmful. The same Bible that teaches you to mortify the flesh also teaches to render "due benevolence" to your wife. Is she the "one that's not quite good enough"? Or is she the present God gave you? Will you make her pay the price for your lack of control? Or will you see the maturity from God to hold to the good, and shun the evil? Will you take responsibility for your actions? Or will you blame the drive God built into you? You can use it for good or evil, your choice. Love in Christ, Mark |
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