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1 | desperate for help | 1 Tim 5:8 | justme | 118536 | ||
Rowdy: I read with interest that Emmy's "biggest tradjedy is that you wont be able to remarry if you find you must leave your husband." Rowdy is this really her biggest trajedy? I would hope this would be her least of all the problems she faces. Generally most people are not thinking a bout marring someone else while trying to get their marriage some help. Many counselors are quick to say the "D" word, and may not have the Christian training to guide a couple into reconcillation. I know of couples who have endured many problems in their marriage for decades, because the Christian values demanded they stay and work hard with the love they had. That kind of covenant marriage is what the LORD expects, at least that's my understanding of Scripture. This example is why I think like EdB there is not much help on a Forum for serious marriage problems, and we are better off to refer them to professional Christian help. Blessings. justme |
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2 | desperate for help | 1 Tim 5:8 | Rowdy | 118539 | ||
Ultimately, I have to agree with your overall assessment of the Forum. This is a great place for learning, discussing and maybe even debate but I agree (like I did in my earlier post) the Forum is a LOUSY place for counseling, especially such as this in a very personal situation. HOWEVER, that being said, since this is such a public type and almost completely anonymous Forum, one really should keep in mind the tremendous numbers of folks such as yourself who read our posts. When I write on this Forum, I do my best to remember that and be a small voice for God, among the many others. We should see ourselves as vessels of God, His conduits thru which His Light MUST shine to the rest of the world. In some cases, there are those that don't have God's Word available to them, at least not readily OR they choose to ignore the copy they have. So we should feel compelled to speak out for God and tell folks just the way it is as we see it in God's Word. And since a person has already "toughen" themselves about their personal situation and steps into this Forum for discussion, they show they can handle the plain honesty that is found in the Bible. I realize that the sanctity of the marriage is indeed a treasured thing. Personally, I think it's the most sacred institution on this planet, after the church herself. But I think it helps a person's (in this case, Emmy's) resolve to know what the cost will be if she decides her marriage can't be saved. A side benefit to all this discussion is hopefully that some other young folks will be inspired to study this subject in the Bible and confirm what I've said, thereby increasing the awareness and resolve to make their marriage better. By the way, goes for me, too. It does us all good to be reminded of the awful mess we humans sometimes get involved in. If we'd only learn to slow down, do more study of God's Word AND more praying to our God before making big decisions, this world would be a much better place. God bless. --Rowdy |
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3 | desperate for help | 1 Tim 5:8 | justme | 118561 | ||
Rowdy: Thanks for responding. I can see your points. I fall into a delma when it comes to advising people on very personal problems, on the foru. Here is why; There are so many opinions about what the Bible teaches on marriage, divorce, and remarriage. Some would bluntly tell someone to stay in an abusive marriage. On the other hand some would sayabuse is grounds for divorce. Still others would stick like cement to unless there has been adultery there can be no divorce for a Christian. This is only one example of the wide range of understandings of what the Bible says. One only has to touch on baptism, or etrenal security of the believer, and there is going to be dogmatic debate as to who is right and who'e wrong. We all have what we think is the only answer to these doctrines. Would you not agree? There are those who come to the forum seeking an answer that meets their agenda, be it divorce, remarriage, or you name it. What on the surface seems like a kind answer could be serving to justify ones actions or conteplating action. I have seen good Bible believing Christians make some serious wrong choices by basing the direction they took by a mistaken understanding of Scripture, and they were totally convienced they were doing what the Bible said. So when someone tells me that the Bibles says thus, I want to see it for myself, and in context. We have been deceived by many false teachers and their wild money making "the Lord told me so". I can easly think of five or so false teachers that have fallen in recent years. People followed not the voice of their master. So these are a few reasons that counseling people on serious problems are best left up to professional traind Christians. The one draw back is it usually cost money something most of us hate to part with, especially something we feel should be free of charge. A pastors time is one thing, a professional Christian psychologist it quite a bit different. However there are a great many who all but give away their time for the sake of the people. Somehow we fail to see the pastor as professional, and unless it's a member a pastor needs some value for his time as well, at least I feel so. I hope this helps explain more of where I am coming from. Blesings. justme |
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