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1 | How can I deal with this child in love? | Eph 4:1 | Bronx | 159565 | ||
where is the Father in all of this? I am going to take an educated guess she is smart for her age, tricky knows when to hold em' , knows when to fold em' she cries on the Father's shoulders talking about how you yell at her maybe and other stuff but lets say the Father is Nuetral because of all she has been through and he may feel guilty himself about it Now she never goes over board in front of him because regardless she doesn't want to take that chance and let him see that side of her in a nutshell, the problem is between you and her and the Father is Neutral if this is so, Your Husband needs to pull up his pants and say to his Daughter respect your elders another scenario if he is not stepping to the plate because he is taking it easy and letting you handle it, and he doesn't want to get near this one she probably does stuff and acts up when she knows he is not around anyway do your self a favor, when she does something don't talk to her talk to the Father, as many times as she does something whatever it is keep telling your Husband, trust me his ears will swell and he will get tired of hearing it, at some point it will sink in, but you don't say anything to her example: your lying in your bed putting lotions on your hands after reading the Bible and now before you click off the light you say something like Oh I forgot to tell you your daughter skipped school today ...good night honey and you sleep tight! Trust me he will start noticing stuff, and she won't be able to blame you after awhile Hey I wouldn't be surpprised sooner or later the Husband is so hard on her for her own good she is going to need a friend enter in you with a plate of milk and cookies "in Christ you can do all things" Angel turn the tables around if this is what is actually occurring in your house the husband, the father needs to take charge and if he is not on this, trust me his ears will swell, you take the pressure off of you Angel Blessings to you and your family |
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2 | How can I deal with this child in love? | Eph 4:1 | angelsofGod | 159570 | ||
Hi! Whoever wrote that last response to me "THAT IS THE TRUTH"that have had to be God giving you insight about this matter because everything you said is the TRUTH!!! I just sat here at the computer and just got teary eye for a minute because its the truth.I have been telling him too and I mean everything and he was so surprised that she had did what SHE said SHE DIDN'T DO! He squared her up BIG TIME!! Her EYES were so BIG and she was mad @ me for telling him, but she didn't want to tell me the TRUTH about what have happen and so I told my husband so that he could get to the bottom of it and she told the truth.You are right about she is very sneaky,convincing,very smart,and very tricky.After she got in trouble for doing what she did and lied about it, she starts to cry about missing her mom and I'm not saying that she doesn't misses her mom,but @ that time after she got chastise from her father and just cried on his shoulders for sympathy, but I told my husband that the enemy tries to use that as a scapegoat to gain sympathy from him as a COVER-UP.You are right about acting up around me, but not around him.She is so sneaky until I see right through her and try to talk to her through love because I realize its not her that is lying, being sneaky and etc...but the different bad spirits in her to make her act up BIG TIME!! I can't fight fleshly, but through the spirit.I tell you the enemy has been laying dormant and trying to me believe that she has made a 360 degree turn overnight when I know that's not true.I'm staying very prayerful through this and I appreciate the encouraging words to help me. |
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3 | How can I deal with this child in love? | Eph 4:1 | mattiep | 159604 | ||
Yes, I agree. And make sure you always let her know that you Love her. Even after or during discipline, make sure that she KNOWS that you Love her. Just as GOD hates sin but Loves the sinner, you hate her antics but make sure that she knows that you Love her. At one point in my son's life, (he's my nephew, I raised him) I was so hurt and angry by his actions, I would regret when it was time for him to come home because it would be pure STRIFE. One night I got down on my knees and I asked GOD to PLEASE, help me to see my child thru HIS (GOD's) eyes! I prayed that HE would show me how HE see's my child so I could continue to live with him and Love him as he so richly deserved to be loved. Well, when I went to sleep, I dreamed my son was 3 years old, and his little face was looking up at me and asking me "How much do ya love me?" I woke up with tears in my eyes. I went in that 16 year olds room and grabbed him and hugged him so hard, he didn't know what to think! And I told him, "I know things are difficult, i don't always understand how you feel but I'm gonna try. I know you are hurt by your past but now we are going to live in the present and go on to the future. I can't rewrite your past but I LOVE YOU and if we just try, one day at a time, to walk in a new relationship, with GOD's help, we may develope trust to go along with this LOVE that I have for you. GOD Loves you and so do I." Things didn't always go right but whatever happened, we learned to trust and love so that soon the trials and troubles in this life became the opposition instead of me and my son at each other's throats. My son, my husband and myself, in the LORD, became a team. It ain't easy, but I tell you it's possible. Nothing is too hard for GOD. Proverbs 10:12 says Hatred stirs up strife but Love covers all sins. My Prayers are with you and your family. Pray before you speak. Remember that once something is out of the mouth, you can't take it back. Even apologies can't erase the damage. Establish your standards. If you explain your principles and why you live by them, even if she doesn't agree, a picture is worth a thousand words. If she sees your beliefs are a constant in your life, she may emulate them, eventually and accept them as her own. |
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4 | How can I deal with this child in love? | Eph 4:1 | angelsofGod | 159702 | ||
Hi MattieP! It's amazing how God works and how he works things or situations out because I been praying to him about this situation.He has truly been helping me along this treachous path the enemy has set up, trying to deceive me in her behaviour.I told her why she is beening discipline and explaining to her every step so that she don't get it mistaken as NOONE loves me ideal, you know what I'm saying.The baffling part of this is after her and I had a long long long long long long longggg conversation about what have happen the other day and does she understand the consequences of the "her bad choices" she had made and she said "yes".Two days later after the lonnnnnnnnnng talk she did it again something "Foul" and lied again about it and I JUST GOT REALLY ANGRY because we had just sat down and had a long discussion about her telling truth and the bad habits she had picked up back home (Texas),we in Florida.I couldn't understand why is this happening like this.I said to myself that something is TRULY WRONG, here.I went to praying and told God that he has to help me and help me RIGHT AWAY! This not working because I'm thinking she is understanding me and I extending my heart, time, effort and trying to love her and it is not easy @ this point.I feel like I can't deal with this ANYMORE! It's overwhelming, and I pray God lead me to the rock that is higher than I for thou has been a shelter before and I need him to shelter me NOW and I mean RIGHT NOW!!! I'm not going to lie to you, but @ this point I have not got to the point of telling her that I Love her just yet.She knows that I truly care for her and she knows her father loves her, but as for me, right now I can't come out in tell her yet that I love her because right now it's now true.I'm learning her and it's getting better, but in the meantime it's difficult to express the motherly love she needs right now and I'm just telling you the truth.I care for her! I don't trust her because she lies sooooooooo much and I don't believe nothing she says because she lies soooooooooooooooo much and I don't like for her to even be around me when she does get like that. I'm constantly praying that God continue to give me what to say to her and how to handle her each day because it's going to take one day @ a time.And I know one day I will be able to actually tell that little girl that I love her and truly mean it with "ALL OF MY HEART"!! |
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