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1 | Is "tough love" biblical? | Prov 13:24 | chicks | 134976 | ||
Is "tough love" biblical. (Please list biblical references.) | ||||||
2 | Is "tough love" biblical? | Prov 13:24 | JCrichton | 134977 | ||
Hi, Chicks! Please further define your question... Tough as in correcting a child, friend, spouse... yeah! Tough as in physical/mental abuse... never! God Bless! Angel |
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3 | Is "tough love" biblical? | Prov 13:24 | chicks | 134988 | ||
To further define "tough love": I have heard of people "enabling" alcoholics to remain in that lifestyle. "Tough love" is where you have to let them "hit rock bottom" before they will start back on the right path. I have a 19 year old son who moved out and has walked away from God. He is angry and bitter. His attitude has cost him his job at least twice now. He has no job, car won't run, wrecked his roomates car, and who knows what else. I refuse to give him money or pay for things for him. My sister-in-law and his roomates' parents give them food, rides, and otherwise "help" them. Am I being too hard on them or are these people "enabling" them to remain in their sin? (I went through the program for family and friends of alcoholics with his father about 19 years ago.) I need biblical references. I realize the bible says "to spare the rod is to spoil the child". But he isn't at home, and he isn't exactly a child. Thank you for your help. | ||||||
4 | Is "tough love" biblical? | Prov 13:24 | JCrichton | 135044 | ||
Hi, Chicks! ...truly you are caught between a rock and a hard place! Your son is old enough to disobey you; yet he is too immature to realize that he is harming himself (both spiritually and physically)... From the informationg offered I can say that your son has been enabled--for too many years society (TV families like the Simpson, 7th Heaven, etc) has been training children to walk the path of egocentrism, irresponsibility, unaccountability, and apathy! In Christ, you are bound for life to those around your, specially if they are family relations... but there comes a time when you must let go... when all you can do is pray and teach through love, Christ's Love, (1 Corinthians 13:4-8), while remembering that God demands a certain behavior from us... enabling others to indulge in destructive behavior is not part of God's rendering of love! Just as God allows us to fail, and He lovingly accepts us when we,realizing our errors, return to Him (Luke 15:11-32), so should you love your son... not enabling him to continue in a destructive path, but praying, preaching with love, assiting when he is taking steps towards recovery (alcohol, drugs, school, job, God)... Remember also that our job in the Lord is to warn the people not to force them to subject their wills to the Lord! (Ezekiel 33:2-9) God Bless! Angel |
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