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1 | Rape in marriage and what to do | Bible general Archive 2 | detseretni43 | 129091 | ||
Dear actingqueen, I'm new to this site, so I don't know if the above is actually what you wish to be called, or if JKW was accusing you of "acting" in regards to the rape. I take exception to the idea that "If you don't forgive (your husband) that makes him a rapist". On the contrary -- his action against you made him a rapist. You may not have Biblical grounds to divorce this man. However, there is also no Biblical mandate that you continue to LIVE WITH a man who would victimize or abuse you in this way. In my opinion, you are in danger, and God did not create marriage in order to put His beloved children in danger. "Male and female He created them......a man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one." Not just sexually, but in every way -- this is the intent that I understand God to have had in creating marriage. If a man is treating you in the way you described, he is not cleaving to you, but rather has objectified you, and has no understanding of his role as a Christian husband. It is my beleif that Biblically, you would suffer no condemnation for leaving this abusive situation and living where you can be safe, away from this man, until such a time as he not only recognizes, but fully repents from his sinful (and mentally/spiritually sick)mindset. If that never happens, I would say, you never go back. To the most strict application of Scripture, you would also never divorce, and therefore, never be romantically involved/married again, and THAT would then be your cross to bear -- not the "cross" of subjecting yourself to continual abuse, as suggested by the other brother. I pray for you, and I hope that you will take these suggestions to heart. detseretni43 |
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2 | Rape in marriage and what to do | Bible general Archive 2 | lookN4luv | 129215 | ||
please detseretni43 ... this is JKW Many of us "jump to conclusions" when we are new to this forum. I know I did this foolishly about a year ago. The name actingqueen is her choice as a user name. Believe me, it is very insulting for you to think I would accuse her of "acting" in reguards to the rape. This is a very serious matter that calls for a biblical solution not a gender based idea about being away (but not legally divorced) ... the idea is redundant, and the circle is still broken. You are correct "his actions against you made him a rapist" this is why she must forgive (his actions) then (his actions) are forgiven and no longer do they exist, hence he is no longer a rapist.Just as when we are forgiven by the Father, our God, we are no longer a sinner, but we are regaurded as a saint and joint heirs with Jesus. The Biblical mandate that says she must remain with him lies within the vows of their marrige (as mandated by God's Word). Please do not assume too much ... She loves her husband, that is why it cuts her so deeply. I would never suggest to anyone to subject themself to an abusive situation. Believe me, I am a man, but I too am a victom of sposal abuse both metally and physically. I am ampathedic to her pain, and I can clearly see she is seeking a solution not a cross of self-condemnations and lonliness. To bear our cross is to intently carry anothers burdons, not our own. That is a cross of shame. I hope this helps you to analize my notations to her more clearly. I am not upset and I hope I have not upset you either. Please realize that your statement replies to mine and not to hers. So, she didn't even get to read what you wrote. You must scroll down to the thread links and read it all, then form an educated opinion, and send it to the intended reciever. Thank you, God Blessing to you and your families, JKW |
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