Subject: Rape in marriage and what to do |
Bible Note: please detseretni43 ... this is JKW Many of us "jump to conclusions" when we are new to this forum. I know I did this foolishly about a year ago. The name actingqueen is her choice as a user name. Believe me, it is very insulting for you to think I would accuse her of "acting" in reguards to the rape. This is a very serious matter that calls for a biblical solution not a gender based idea about being away (but not legally divorced) ... the idea is redundant, and the circle is still broken. You are correct "his actions against you made him a rapist" this is why she must forgive (his actions) then (his actions) are forgiven and no longer do they exist, hence he is no longer a rapist.Just as when we are forgiven by the Father, our God, we are no longer a sinner, but we are regaurded as a saint and joint heirs with Jesus. The Biblical mandate that says she must remain with him lies within the vows of their marrige (as mandated by God's Word). Please do not assume too much ... She loves her husband, that is why it cuts her so deeply. I would never suggest to anyone to subject themself to an abusive situation. Believe me, I am a man, but I too am a victom of sposal abuse both metally and physically. I am ampathedic to her pain, and I can clearly see she is seeking a solution not a cross of self-condemnations and lonliness. To bear our cross is to intently carry anothers burdons, not our own. That is a cross of shame. I hope this helps you to analize my notations to her more clearly. I am not upset and I hope I have not upset you either. Please realize that your statement replies to mine and not to hers. So, she didn't even get to read what you wrote. You must scroll down to the thread links and read it all, then form an educated opinion, and send it to the intended reciever. Thank you, God Blessing to you and your families, JKW |