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1 | Of course I'm bitter! You would be too. | 1 Cor 7:5 | mpa | 66645 | ||
I'm always astounded that when I ask my question about my wife breaking God's Word, the answers I get involve my responsibility. Heaven forbid that she should be held accountable for 20 years of pushing her husband away! Heaven forbid that she is the one who is disobedient and actually tempting me to commit adultery! Why do my Christian brothers and sisters never even act like they hurt for my lose? When, after two decades of this and now being pushed into sleeping in a spare bed-room, is the responsibility put on her? What she has done in my mind is a form of adultery, by not cleaving to the one she made vows to. She is the one who has broken her marital vows to cleave to her husband, while demanding now that I sleep in another room because she's more comfortable. Stop telling me that I have to do something. She won't go to counseling. She won't repent because she doesn't think she has done anything wrong. I'm not unattractive, fat, etc. I'm considered good looking and I even bathe daily!!! I have an attractive personality and most people enjoy being around me. It makes me angry that the counsel I get from my Christian brothers and sisters always puts this monkey on my back. I've carried this monkey alone, without help or encouragement to the point of exhaustion. Don't worry. I'll probably not divorce her. It's too late in life and too costly. And if she proceeds me in death I probably won't marry again. But if I did chose to divorce her on the grounds of 2 decades of her unfaithfulness, I defy you to condemn me as sinning. SHE IS THE ONE WHO HAS BEEN UNFAITHFUL! I won't marry again, not because of fear that it would be adultery. This marriage has been enough heart ache. Thanks everyone for all of your understanding and so-called Biblical counsel. Maybe you ought to consider finding the spirit of the law as much as you are committed to finding the letter of the law. Your lonely and heart-broken brother. By-the-way, is there anyone out there who has spent two decades in marital abstinance who wants to tell me I need to try harder? MPA | ||||||
2 | Of course I'm bitter! You would be too. | 1 Cor 7:5 | gracefull | 66668 | ||
As cyclist said..believers can only give the word as counsel and it is the best counsel if heeded. If your wife were here asking this same question, we would do the same for her. She is not asking, noone can offer guidance to her. You said you have tried, but maybe you should just focus your relationship on God in prayer and allow Him to do the work. It is your relationship with Him that matters most. The joy of the Lord is our strength. 1. The spirit of the law is love..For God so loved the world...In that while we were still sinners Christ died for us...husbands, love your wives.. sacrificial love of brothers and sisters who interceed for you and your wife...God's love through us fulfills the law... 2. There is great blessing in walking in love Psalm 15 Lord, who shall abide in thy tabernacle? who shall dwell in thy holy hill? He that walketh uprightly, and worketh righteousness, and speaks truth in his heart. He that backbiteth not with his tongue, nor doeth evil to his neighbor. In whose eyes a vile person is contemned: but he honourth them that fear the LORD. He that SWEARETH TO HIS OWN HURT AND CHANGETH NOT. He that putteth not out his money to usury, nor taketh reward against the innocent. HE THAT DOETH THESE THINGS SHALL NEVER BE MOVED. 3. 1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such is common to man: but God WHO IS FAITHFUL, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will WITH THE TEMPTATION ALSO MAKE A WAY OF ESCAPE, that ye may be able to bear it. My brother, your wife will have to give an account for her actions, but as you odviously know so will you. God is merciful and has made a way of escape and has promised by the Psalm that He will comfort you through your faithfulness to your committment. MPA no one here believes your situation is easy, and no one here believes you are totally responsible. It is just useless and even unGodly for any of us to discuss your wife without her presence. It will seem unfair when you are carnal in your thinking, but in the spirit we cease to be self concerned. You have grown weary with well doing. You only have two choices..walk in the flesh or walk in the spirit. As a born again believer you do have the choice. God can provide the comfort you need to remain faithful and joyful. In my prayers dear brother! |
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