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1 | Of course I'm bitter! You would be too. | 1 Cor 7:5 | mpa | 66645 | ||
I'm always astounded that when I ask my question about my wife breaking God's Word, the answers I get involve my responsibility. Heaven forbid that she should be held accountable for 20 years of pushing her husband away! Heaven forbid that she is the one who is disobedient and actually tempting me to commit adultery! Why do my Christian brothers and sisters never even act like they hurt for my lose? When, after two decades of this and now being pushed into sleeping in a spare bed-room, is the responsibility put on her? What she has done in my mind is a form of adultery, by not cleaving to the one she made vows to. She is the one who has broken her marital vows to cleave to her husband, while demanding now that I sleep in another room because she's more comfortable. Stop telling me that I have to do something. She won't go to counseling. She won't repent because she doesn't think she has done anything wrong. I'm not unattractive, fat, etc. I'm considered good looking and I even bathe daily!!! I have an attractive personality and most people enjoy being around me. It makes me angry that the counsel I get from my Christian brothers and sisters always puts this monkey on my back. I've carried this monkey alone, without help or encouragement to the point of exhaustion. Don't worry. I'll probably not divorce her. It's too late in life and too costly. And if she proceeds me in death I probably won't marry again. But if I did chose to divorce her on the grounds of 2 decades of her unfaithfulness, I defy you to condemn me as sinning. SHE IS THE ONE WHO HAS BEEN UNFAITHFUL! I won't marry again, not because of fear that it would be adultery. This marriage has been enough heart ache. Thanks everyone for all of your understanding and so-called Biblical counsel. Maybe you ought to consider finding the spirit of the law as much as you are committed to finding the letter of the law. Your lonely and heart-broken brother. By-the-way, is there anyone out there who has spent two decades in marital abstinance who wants to tell me I need to try harder? MPA | ||||||
2 | Of course I'm bitter! You would be too. | 1 Cor 7:5 | Reformer Joe | 66663 | ||
"I'm always astounded that when I ask my question about my wife breaking God's Word, the answers I get involve my responsibility." I don't know why you would be astounded at that. This is StudyBibleForum, and the Bible says: "For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body." --Ephesians 5:23 You wrote: "Heaven forbid that she should be held accountable for 20 years of pushing her husband away! Heaven forbid that she is the one who is disobedient and actually tempting me to commit adultery!" I don't see where anyone denies that she is being disobedient or not tempting you toward adultery. That does not negate your biblical responsibility to hold her accountable for her sin. If she has been pushing you away for 20 years without you taking action before now, then the problem is greater than simply her sin. Who permitted her to move to a separate bedroom? Where is the church in confronting her with her sin? "She won't go to counseling." Are you members of a church? An unrepentant, sinning wife should be confronted by the pastor or elders of your church. "She won't repent because she doesn't think she has done anything wrong." That is where she is wrong. The Bible says: "The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." --1 Corinthians 7:2-5 A wife depriving her husband is definitely sinning and helping Satan tempt him toward adultery. You wrote: "It makes me angry that the counsel I get from my Christian brothers and sisters always puts this monkey on my back. I've carried this monkey alone, without help or encouragement to the point of exhaustion." And what counsel have you sought from the leadership of your church? God established church discipline for a reason. "But if I did chose to divorce her on the grounds of 2 decades of her unfaithfulness, I defy you to condemn me as sinning." It is not a question of me condemning you. However, you have given no indication in your posts of anything you have done either to assert your authority as the head of the household or to seek help from those God ordained as overseers of the church. If you have done so, we are not mind-readers, so attacking us for responding to half the story is pretty petty. It seems to me that you have been keeping this a secret for the last two decades. This Forum is for Bible study, not to serve as a substitute for wise counsel from the leadership in your church. My only advice is to talk to those who know you and your wife personally as well as the word of God and their role in overseeing the flock. --Joe! |
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