Subject: how do you deal with unrequited feelings |
Bible Note: BNBRIONES - A cordial hello and best wishes for the New Year. Your response concerning your original question is so gracious that it prompts me to say a few words on the general topic of personal type advice-seeking questions. It is hoped that it will be of some benefit to you and to other new users as well. We have on this Forum a fairly large number of users who we might call veterans. They have been around for a long time and have amassed a large number of posts. Two of the respondents to your most recent question, Ray and Searcher, fall into the category of seasoned veterans. And we who have used the Forum for a long time are not prone to give forth with much personal advice. We have our reasons, foremost among them being that the Forum is designed as a medium for Bible study and we try to keep it on track. We really aren't properly qualified to dispense advice on private, personal matters such as one's love life or domestic entanglements. And even if we were, this is not the place to do it. It is the feeling of many, perhaps most, of us that counsel for personal problems of this nature is better sought from Christian counselors within one's own community and not on this, or any other, web site. The danger of obtaining bad and misleading advice on personal problems on an internet forum, this one or any other, is always clear and present. Thus when a responsible user of this Forum -- and Ray and Searcher have proved themselves to be just that -- refuses to give personal advice, please consider that they are not being uncivil toward anyone, but are in fact being very kind -- and very helpful and wise -- in suggesting that questions of this nature be brought before a qualified counselor in a real-life, one-on-one encounter in one's own local church or community. ...... I hope two things. I hope these words of explanation will give you a better understanding of the nature and purpose of StudyBibleForum. And I further hope that you will not feel abashed in asking a question that really doesn't come within the purview of the Forum, but that instead you will continue to participate in the Forum and feel free to ask biblically based questions and give biblically based answers to your heart's content. May God richly bless you. --Hank |