Bible Question:
AM I LEGALLY MARRIED IN GODS EYES? THE REASON I ASK THIS ? IS, DURING A VISIT TO AN EVANGELICAL WEBSITE I CAME ACROSS SUBJECT MATTER PERTAINING TO JESUSES DISCUSSION ABOUT JUSTIFIED DIVORCE IN THE GOSPEL OF MATHEW:5, THAT WEBSITE SAID IF I GOT DIVORCED, OTHER THAN FOR INFIDELITY, THEN I AM NOT MARRIED IN GODS EYES AND AM COMMITING ADULTERY WHEN I AM WITH MY NEW WIFE. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TWICE BEFORE (NOT PROUD OF) BUT WHILE I WAS YET AN UNREPENTANT SINNER. I GOT SAVED DURING THE SEPERATION FROM WIFE #2 AND WAS ALREADY LIVING 2000 MILES AWAY, SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH SOMEONE ELSE CHILD, WHICH I FOUND OUT ABOUT WHEN I PRAYED AND ASKED GOD TO PUT MY MARRIAGE BACK TOGETHER IF IT WERE HIS WILL (WHICH I TOOK AS MY ANSWER "NO") I HAD NO CHILDREN WITH THOSE 2 AND I FEEL GOD HAS BLESSED ME NOW WITH A GREAT CHRISTIAN WOMAN AND 2 BEAUTIFUL GIRLS! |
Bible Answer: (con't) But this is not the whole story. "The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and plenteous in mercy . . . For He knoweth our frame; He remembereth that we are dust" (Psalm 103:8, 14). "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins" (I John 1:9). This promise is specifically for Christians, and includes even the sin of adultery, if there is genuine repentance. The Lord made this very clear in His dealing with the woman who "was taken in adultery, in the very act" (John 8:4). He reminded her accusers that they also were sinners and had no warrant to punish her. Then He told the woman: "Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more" (John 8:11). He in no way condoned her sin, but He did forgive her sin, when she gave evidence of godly sorrow and determination not to sin again in this way. Under such conditions, His followers would do well to follow His example. At least in this particular context, He put no further conditions on her freedom, either to return to her husband if he would have her, or to marry another if she were already divorced. There is one other important Biblical factor to consider in divorce-and-remarriage situations. A Christian should never marry a non-Christian, as this almost inevitably leads to serious friction in the home later on unless the unsaved partner can, by God's grace, be won to Christ. "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers" (II Corinthians 6:14). Nevertheless, many Christians insist on doing this very thing. And then what? Also, a person may become a believer after marriage, with the partner still unsaved. In either case, there is an unequal yoke, and the Christian husband or wife may come to desire release from this yoke. The Apostle Paul commands in this case: "...If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him." (I Corinthians 7:12, 13). The next verse indicates this is especially important for the sake of the children, who are often the ones hurt most by a divorce. But suppose the unsaved spouse is the one who insists on a divorce. "If the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace" (I Corinthians 7:15). This obviously means that the Christian husband or wife is then at liberty to remarry. In fact, if there are children involved, and if a caring Christian spouse can be found, it would be good to remarry, for children need the love and guidance of both a father and mother, provided, of course, that the stepmother or stepfather is "in the Lord" (I Corinthians 7:39) and desires to assume such a responsibility. By extension, these principles could be applied to other situations that the Scriptures do not cover explicitly. As noted above, God is able and willing to forgive all sins, including even the sin of getting a divorce for trivial reasons. He has called us to peace, not legal bondage, and He can make a good marriage and a happy home no matter what the previous history of the people involved may have been, provided that true repentance, proper restitution, and genuine saving faith and sincere desire to serve the Lord now exist in their lives. God bless |