Bible Question: I was expecting immediately after my first baby. Now I have 2 children and am afraid of a third pregnancy and hence we are using condoms. Is it wrong to use condoms please advise? |
Bible Answer: Dear Effie: After reading you question, I too learned how to use the QUICK SEARCH, and I have used the forum for about a year. So it is never to late to learn something. After reading the QUICK SEARCH answer on condoms, which was quite good, I would like to add something for think tank. My wife and I have been married for almost thirty four years. We have had three daughters ages 15, 22, 32, and one son age 28. Our last daughter was born when my wife was 37, and I was 42. Our children are rather spaced out. I jokingly say it took me that long to recover between each one. I was there for the last three in the delivery room. Except our second had some complecations amd I was asked to step outside. However for the last two I was ther when the first sign of their had showed. I will treasure those times forever. I also will say if I were a woman I would never get pregnant! Birth is painful and how women do it is amazing to me. Over the years we used the IUD in ignorance, the pill for a very short time, and the Spounge for several years, and finally birth control foam. We used that for many years. But it must be used correctly and consistantly. However that applys to any method. Condoms have a high failure rate for many reasons, and they are costly. Some couples feel that condoms interfer with a certian closeness. All birth control interfers with fertilization, and prevents implantation of the zigoat. For us we felt surgical birth control for either of was not right. For us that so interfered with the chance that God might have something else in His will, that we might interfer with. For us it was our last daughter, she has been a blessing beyond words. I will be 62, when she turns 20. I have been mistaken for her grandpa a couple of times and we have taken care of that instantly. That has been the fun humoris times. She keeps us young ond on the go. She is an aunt to a nice three years younger than she. Many places in the world have only the most prinative methods of birth control, at high failure rates. I would assume in Mary and Joseph life after Jesus they too had to deal with this issue as well. I am convienced that the Lord does supply if we are people of faith. I am equally sure that what ever you and your husband decide to do, should be a matter of viewing your health. I think it is unhealthy for you to have a baby one right after the other. Perhaps even dangerous, and deffinately is a health risk. Where would you husband be if you passed on, with three small children? There is a natural birth control based on the time of ovulation, and checking mucus. I do not know a lot about it but there is a group of women that have these books in any large book store. Not only that but a trip for both of you to your OBGYN Doctor with you husband, might be a good place to get all the current information. I do know Depo Povara is something my work at the Crisis Pregnancy Center found caused long lasting problems. I admire your courage to ask your question. I have tried to be open obout our sexual love life, and hope this will not only help you but others as well. Love your children, and never neglect the love between you and your husband, that love should be first, so the family will stay intact as God intended. God Bless you and your family. Peace, farout |