Bible Question: I have been hurt by my in-laws I have forgiven them and want to forget about these hurts completly, but am unable to do so although i have started praying for them daily. I feel like speaking these hurts out to them. Is it right to speak them out or to just shut my mouth. |
Bible Answer: Hi Effie, Here is my answer to your question. Matt 18:35 "My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother FROM YOUR HEART." Forgiveness is based on THE Love IN YOUR HEART. And the love in your heart is based on how much Love u have been giving to yourself based on how much God and Christ love U! 1 john 4:18 And how much do they love u? As Themselves! John 15:9, Matthew 22:36-40, 7:12. And how much do they love themselves? All the way, all the time, at all times, as every word and its opposite. Proverbs 17:17, Romans 13:8. So before we can forgive others, we have to love them. And before we can love them, we have to lvoe ourselves. So the q to yourself is: Do u love yourself as your inlaws? God loves u as your inlaws. In other words, if u were them, wd u love u? And, if they were u, wd u love them? God loves u as them, and He loves them as u! See? If your answers were yes, then u wd have no problem forgiving them without forgetting waht they did! If any answer is no, there's your problem: u hate u as them and so hate them as urself, and so wd not forgive U if u hurt urself the way they hurt u, so it is no wonder u won't and can't forgive them neither. See? Hatred of yourself and so hatred of anyone as yourself IS the spirit of UNforgiveness! We can't forgive others for what we wd hate ourselves for doing! See? So your real problem is with yourself: U only love your self as certain words and hate yourself as the opposite of those word. If u still hate u for killing Christ, how can u forgive God for killing His own Son, and for using the His own people to kill him, and for asking Abraham to kill his own son, Issac? John 3:16, Genesis 22. See? Do u love u as a pleasure AND as a pain? See? If u hate u as a pain, u will not forgive u for being a pain to urself nor to others, and so not be able to forgive others who are pains to u or pain u? See? The real pain is the pain of hate u have for yourself, and so for others! That pain remains even after the other physical pains go away. And that is the pain that is keeping u from forgiving yourself and from forgiving them. So love u as all words and their opposites as God lvoes u, and u will lvoe urself as your inlaws and love them as yourslf and so forgive them as u forgive yourself! Matthew 18:15-35. Any word u hate u as is the word Christ is and is the word HE loves himself as and so loves u and them and me as! John 1:1, 12. See? Then guess what? YOur in-Laws will be come your In-Loves! Ok? Hope that helps. Love and Respect, Giam |