Bible Question: How far should a woman have to go to submit to her husband? If he is physically or mentally abusive, surely she doesn't have to put up with that? What if it is a Christian woman and a non christian man? What if the man claims to be a Christian but is abusive towards his wife and children? |
Bible Answer: I agree with both Debbie and There. If she is under physical abuse she should leave, even if the abuse is not bad - it will get worse. One problem that women run into in this situation is the apology afterwards. The man ususally always promises to never let it happen again, he loves her so much. He then treats her very well for a short time and she loves him so she wants to believe him. She accepts his apology and the whole cycle begins over again. Each cycle will get a little bit worse. As was said earlier she prpbably won't have a lot of friends because of the confidentuality issue mentioned but also because the husband won't have as much control and he needs to maintain firm control. It is very hard for a woman to walk away from someone she loves and feels truly needs her, especially if she is a Christian and honors her covenant with the man. However Christ would not want her to stay. One more thing I would add on emotional abuse. I agree with the statement Debbie made that if the woman is a Christian she has an advantage. However, in this type of situation her self confidence will be continually attacked and it is extremely hard to maintain a high opinion of oneself. Her having self confidence is what is in question in the relationship. The man does not want her to have any. He doesn't want her to think that she can live without him. I can testify to these things because I went through a abusive relationship and had to leave. It was very, very hard. If this woman or you would like you can contact me at prayon@spocom.com. I would be most happy to "talk" to her. prayon |