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1 | Help with misled teen with gender issues | 1 Pet 5:7 | sfriend | 1005 | ||
CHARIS, what you say resonates with me, and I know what you say is true. So, I am in denial at times, and require some reality testing, hmm? I have emailed my contact at church and hope to talk to him tomorrow and explain what is going on and ask for support etc. I guess, I have been reticient for others in my church to know whats going on, anxious, that they wouldn't understand. We have been to some Christian PhD's who were not as sensitive as we would have liked, and were somewhat extreme. Kind of the old Hellfire and Brimstone approach, it frightened us, that our son would not be receptive, but move further away. Pls pray for us, that God will direct us to the most appropriate vessel for his message and the Holy Spirit will soften and open my sons teenage heart, that he won't be so oppositional and will truly listen to the love and caring that God sends to us. This trial has a feeling of insurmountablity my word? and of hopelessness. I realize now, that I have empowered Satan or? and minimized the power of our Lord in my unconscious. oops! I once again, must take this problem off my shoulders, and allow Christ Jesus to handle it, as He will and should, since I am, who I am, a forgiven sinner, not a wonder woman capable of solving all problems herself. . . your insight referencing sin, is powerful, and I guess again; although it is not my favorite perspective, you are correct; that it boils down to our weaknesses, and lack of trust in Christ, that we fall and sin, again and again. I am so optimistic and see the best in people, as a rule, and so I tend to deny that we are human and will sin, and separate ourselves from the Perfect One. This is an owwweee, a sensitive trigger for me. I don't like to THINK that my son is sinning intentionally, to separate himself from the love of Christ, and I suppose he is not, intentionally, but we are susceptible to the Deceiver, aren't we? and as a teen going through the normal emotional insecurities, I wish I had seen this coming and brought Jesus in a little quicker,more ONTOP of it all, instead of on the sidelines, periphery. Tried to do all things right, working with the teen groups, as a leader for the girls, supporting, and it was FUN, the summer church camps as their nurse, etc. but this one hit me broadside. Wish my son wasn't soo intelligent, it seems to be the stumbling block, since he is so logic minded, although logic wasn't why he trusted Christ, it was faith in the unseen. I think perhaps my own intellect and medical bkground has only strengthened the bond Satan has had on us. I thank God now, for you and your insightful comments and tenacity in following up with me! We shall prevail in Christ Jesus! thank you again, and please keep it coming! SFriend |
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2 | Help with misled teen with gender issues | 1 Pet 5:7 | sfriend | 979 | ||
Charis, thanks for feedback, I love my church, Woodmen Valley Chapel in Co Springs, Co. We are inbetween pastors, hope to have one in the next few months. I have spoken to several in the body; who are in my opinion Christian Sages. This isn't a typical problem. Transgender issues are not an issue that most people could speak to off the top of their head. It is NOT like homosexual issues. Although it may seem to be on the surface, to anyone who has not researched this and lived the situ I am in with my son. I do believe that it stems from a common problem; self esteem, self concept self identity adolescent issues. I have another in our body who I intend to talk to. I have spoken to him once, in the past, looking for help of an older teen or young adult mentor for my son. Within our our body; we are large 3000 plus, hoping we had a mentoring program etc. Wwe didn't and although HE was receptive,he is about 30 something and degreed in a Christian college, ordained, he is our Youth, College, Career Prg Mgr Director. He did say, that sadly our young,college age kids were more self directed, introspective about their careers, and not invested at this time in mentoring, etc. It broke my heart,what could I say? THAT would have made a CHANGE; I can't change people, thats the Holy Spirits venue. . . The indiv I referenced,is receptive and I will contact him again, at your suggestion and perhaps he will be instructive. He does not know specifics of my sons problems. My church, through the board, have agreed to offer some financial support regarding a residential tx center for my son; it is sadly not enough, short a mere thousand plus per month. This was after a Christian physician contacted them on our behalf, because he also knew people in our church (board), explaining the situ. They did not say to him, let her come and discuss this with us, after they were told what was going on. . . . so, perhaps, they didn't feel qualified to assist any other way. thats what I surmised, anyway. Thank you again, and I am interested in any help, suggestions you have. It was an appropriate query and I certainly appreciate the thought and time you have taken to respond, do not cease to care; that and love are the greatest gifts, esp that we have to offer each other. SFriend |
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3 | Help with misled teen with gender issues | 1 Pet 5:7 | sfriend | 821 | ||
JVHO212, DITTO re: encouragement I do know that this was not chance or accident and that He will not give me anything I can't deal with, I MUST do the TRUST ThInG moment by moment and live in the moment and not allow myself to think of the future and spin depressing tales, my imagination IS my worst enemy your sister in Christ SFriend |
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4 | Help with misled teen with gender issues | 1 Pet 5:7 | sfriend | 820 | ||
HeirofGod, thank you as well Certainly he is vulnerable to Satan, I don't think this is about homosexuality. It is about an identity crisis, he is not attracted to males and at this time, it is not about sex, he is not sexually active, nor does he want to be. He truly believes that he is a boy in a girls body, ugh. I will peruse the scriptures you recommended, thank you, I am sure they will be insightful. My husband and I had decided on a, for better lack of words a frontal attack, not truly meant to be confrontive in the respect of angry or antagonizing or getting into a power struggle or ego battle, but after PRAYING, asking the Holy Spirt to guide the discussion. . . my son is not averse to discussing any of this. Pray for us, please SFriend sends |
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5 | Help with misled teen with gender issues | 1 Pet 5:7 | sfriend | 816 | ||
JVH0212 Thanks for your feedback, will try the ph number. We have an appt with a Christian PhD adolescent expert; that I have briefly dialogued with. He seems like it might be a good fit appt on Mar 13. Appreciate your support and prayers and scriptural suggestions. I do know that if I will just 100 percent trust God, that this will work out somehow; and that I will grow closer to Christ and stronger as a believer. This is really pushing the envelope, for me. SFriend sends |
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