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Results from: Answers On or After: Thu 12/31/70 Author: mrkb34 Ordered by Date |
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1 | Seems very unfair that I can not enjoy | 1 Cor 10:23 | mrkb34 | 164189 | ||
I assure you, you can enjoy as the bible says, "new wine" (Matt. 9:17). But you need a new "wine skin." burry the dead. This is how I think you should get a new wine skin. You need to forgive your ex, first of all. I think you know that if you don’t forgive him for hurting you will only hurt yourself and be unable to move on. Also, forgive yourself if you need to. I don’t know if you think you need to, but I don’t want you beating yourself up because of this. There is no condemnation in Christ. In the few years I’ve been on this planet I have seen many people suffer a bad first (and second, third and fourth) marriage because God was missing from the equation. But, when you first find God..."all these things will be added unto you." what I’m saying is this: we as humans have two basic needs: intimacy and approval. We usually try to find the needs met with a spouse. But truly these needs should be met by God and by fellowship with him first and foremost. This is hard but I MUST encourage you to find yourself strong in Christ and your love for him, and not just love but relationship and fellowship. Please believe me when I say I know that marriage is fulfilling and the joy and blessings that your significant other can bring to your life are GREAT! But listen to the voice of your Lord. Part of relationship is telling the other person what you need. If you can honestly say it, tell God you need a man. Tell him you need a strong man to lean on. Tell him what a deep desire it is in your life. Confide all your emotions and feelings in him. Ask him for peace and restoration from the former marriage and ask him to give you hope for a God filled marriage. You asked this question:" Am I to understand then that I will not be able to remarry unless the ex dies. For I never want to be guilty of adultery." this is an impossible question to answer. The bible makes it very clear that sex is a very spiritual thing and that anyone you have ever had sex with you are "married” to in God's eyes. But marriage goes way beyond a physical connection. It is an emotional and spiritual connection as well. The very essence of marriage is a commitment to your mate. From what I understand you and your ex don’t have such a commitment any longer. One of the most amazing things about God is his grace. I believe that in this situation God has much grace for you. This is the best thing to for you to do. Find God in a newer and more real way. Hear from him. Ask him to send you the man that is right for you. Wait. Look for him. Don’t seek him, just keep constant watch. If you think you have found him ask God about him. Listen. If you feel a peace about it then let a relationship develop. Best Wishes. mark- PS the best place to find a mate is at church..i know first hand. |
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