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1 | What about song of Soloman? | 1 John 2:16 | Orange | 184352 | ||
First of all, I very much appreciate the 'straightforwardness' of your post. I myselfe do not wish to walk in deciet, and so I don't wish to have answers that are just meant to make me feel better but do not help. Allow me to further my question. Concerning the 'wandering of the eyes', I have long felt that its a difficult situation: On the one hand, when I put to death the urges of the flesh, then I find no familiarity with the passion that was talked about in Song of Soloman (and therefore find no urge to dote on my wife that way that she likes to be doted on). In my heart, I wind up resisting the tendency to enjoy sex and sexuality the way that I feel God intended. This same 'sexual drive' that allows me to look longfully on my wife is the same element that is restrained, and although I find my struggle with 'wandering eyes' becomes easier to bear, yet my husbandly passion wanes. Then, on the other side, when I indulge in my husbandly pursuit, and revel in the graces that God gave me as a man, I find that my sensual senses are heightened, and my 'eyes' want to pick up on everything feminine. My wife loves the way I enjoy every aspect of her womanhood, yet I suffer in that I find it difficult to control it just towards her, since her body is not as in shape as I would like it to be. As you can see, I feel somewhat trapped between the two. This hasn't yet affected my loyalty towards her in the sense that I am not condoning seperation based on physical appearance. I can slowly see myself pushing her to gain control of her weight, in the hopes that my 'sexual eye' can be focused on her instead. Do you think that this is an unrealistic hope? Advice please. |
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2 | What about physical attraction? | 1 John 2:16 | Orange | 184306 | ||
Thanks Tim. Please allow me to go deeper on this thought. A source of tension in my marriage is around the physical fitness of my spouse. I'm attracted to women who are fit, and when my wife doesn't take the time to keep her shape, then my eyes start to wander. This got me started on thinking about the spiritual foundation for beauty. Is it right to be 'attracted' to my wife because of her looks? (PLease note that this is not the only thing that I'm attracted to in her, but for this subject, lets focus on that). If I'm to be 'enthralled' with her at all times, and if my physical desire for her is a godly (meaning that God made it), then when she falls out of shape and my physical desire for her wanes, how do I reconcile that? Should I put to death my physical desires and be content with what I have, even though my eyes are more prone to wandering? I'd like to keep my eyes on her instead, but this is sometimes difficult. |
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3 | What is the meaning of contentment? | 1 Tim 6:8 | Orange | 184310 | ||
1 Timothy 6:6-9 talks about "godliness with contentment is great gain...". My question focuses on contentment; is it wrong to not be 'content' with my situation in life (financial, physical, etc.)? For example, I wish to lose weight (for both medical and social reasons). I also wish to raise my income (in order to free up more time with my family, and to accumulate wealth that could lead to a better life for my children when they are growing up). I desire to better my situation... am I then going against the scripture of being 'content'? Another example: 1 Timothy 6:10 states that the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil; but what if my love is not money but instead my family (time with them, their needs being met, watching them grow and prosper)? And what if my desire for money was so that I could achieve these other goals (family, etc.)? For example, being able to afford to send my kids to good schools; being able to pay for their medical needs, etc. Then is my desire for greater wealth still considered a 'love of money' and therefore still a sin? |
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4 | What is the role of sex-drive/beauty? | 1 John 2:16 | Orange | 184273 | ||
I have a question... If the 'lust of the flesh' (1 John 2:16) pertains to 'craving for sensual gratification', then is it wrong to have a sex-drive? How about in marraige; can a married person have a sexual craving for his/her spouse? Also within this line of thought; the notion of 'beauty' as far as it being a pleasurable thing; I noticed that God made things that were 'pleasant to the eyes' (Genesis); is it wrong to then find pleasure in things that are 'physically beautiful'? Can you crave for them (like craving to see your spouse keep in shape)? |
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5 | Is sex-drive/beauty bad? | 1 John | Orange | 184270 | ||
I have a question... If the 'lust of the flesh' pertains to 'craving for sensual gratification', then is it wrong to have a sex-drive? How about in marraige; can a married person have a sexual craving for his/her spouse? Also within this line of thought; the notion of 'beauty' as far as it being a pleasurable thing; I noticed that God made things that were 'pleasant to the eyes' (Genesis); is it wrong to then find pleasure in things that are 'physically beautiful'? Can you crave for them (like craving to see your spouse keep in shape)? |
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