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1 | Battered Helpmate | Col 3:19 | kalos | 143957 | ||
Spouse Abuse Bible Study Battered Helpmate by Kathi Edwards AMPLIFIED Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives [be affectionate and sympathetic with them] and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful toward them. 'This page contains Biblical help and info for those experiencing spouse abuse or who would like to help a friend with this problem. More specifically, it deals with special issues faced by Christian women in this circumstance. This is not a comprehensive discussion. The Bible Study format requires looking up the indicated scriptures. 'I. ABUSE IS WRONG. husbands not to be harsh Colossians 3:19 husbands to nourish and cherish wives as they would their own bodies Ephisians 5:25-29 peace in relationships Romans 12:18 folly of venting anger Proverbs 14:17 Proverbs 14:29 Proverbs 29:11 'II. ALLOWING SOMEONE TO ABUSE YOU IS WRONG. safety precautions advised Proverbs 33:3 body as temple of Holy Spirit 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 note: This scripture is often used to preach against promiscuity, smoking, and abuse of alcohol and other drugs. It most certainly applies to domestic violence. look to interests of SELF as well as that of others Philippians 2:3,4 love neighbor as SELF Matthew 22:39 'III. FAILURE TO HELP AN ABUSED PERSON IS WRONG social responsibility Proverbs 24:11,12 Proverbs 10:10 Proverbs 31:8 'IV. THE ISSUE OF NO DIVORCE This is a complicated issue for the Christian woman since she is torn be- tween her need for safety and her church's well known stance on divorce. The following scriptures examine the Biblical teaching on the subject: general teaching God hates divorce. Malachi 2:16 Old Testament law allowed it Deuteronomy 24:1-4 Jesus taught against it. Matthew 5:31 Matthew 19:3-9 Mark 10:2-4 exceptions adultery (see teaching of Jesus above) note: Divorce is allowed when a spouse has strayed, but not mandated. Forgiveness and reconcilliation are always Christian goals. a non-Chrsitian spouse married to a Christian wants to leave 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 note: The option for divorce lies only with the non-Christain spouse. The believer should always be working to heal the relationship. separation reconcilliation the goal 1 Corinthians 7:11 note: This seems to be the best Biblical option for the abused Christian woman in view of the fact that it is wrong for her to remain in danger. During the separation the husband needs to seek help with his violence problem so that reconcilliation will be possible. confrontation for the purpose of behavioral reform Leviticus 19:17 Luke 17:3 Galations 6:1 note: If the abuser refuses to seek help, he is essentially saying he wants a divorce, otherwise he would be willing to work toward reconcilliation. If he is a not Christian, let him go. (see exceptions section above). If he professes to be a Christian, there are specific confrontation strategies outlined in Matthew 18:15-17. If all these measures are tried and he still refuses, he is not behaving as a Christian. (A believer would want to be in the will of God.) He may therefore be dealt with in the same manner as an unbeliever. (see exceptions section above) 'V. THE ISSUE OF SUBMISSION This is another complicated issue for the abused Christian women. The "obey" part of the marriage vow is often misunderstood to mean that the women shoud be supressed, when the intent is actually cooperation.' ____________________ http://members.tripod.com |
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2 | Battered Helpmate | Col 3:19 | kalos | 143969 | ||
The Abuse Must Be Stopped ____________________ "The innocent must be protected, and the abuse must be stopped and the abuser dealt with appropriately." ____________________ Abuse 'What position and advice does the Assemblies of God offer the Christian spouse, child, or others who find themselves in a truly abusive situation? 'The Assemblies of God strongly opposes abuse and the many tragic forms of dysfunction now plaguing our world. It must grieve the heart of God, who cares greatly for the downtrodden, to see one human being abuse another. It must also grieve the heart of God too if His children observe abuse and sit idly by, allowing the evil to continue. (...) 'Reporting abuse: 'Several questions arise when recognizing abuse. What should one do if a spouse is guilty of inflicting abuse? What if a child is involved, either as an abuser or recipient of such mistreatment? What if abuse is occurring outside one’s sphere of influence? In such cases is one still responsible to help resolve the problem? 'Our action to report abuse is vital because victims often feel they are somehow responsible for being abused. Such guilt often results in silence which allows abusers to repeat the sin. 'The first step for anyone who becomes aware of abuse is to report it to someone who can help stop it. This should occur regardless of who is involved; how it takes place; or where, when, or why it transpires. Far too often abuse is never reported. This silence is caused by fear -- fear of retribution by the abuser, fear of losing a relationship with an abusive loved one who could possibly face criminal penalties for his or her actions, and fear of the truth being opened to public view. Regardless of the reason, such fears create silence among victims and families, and the silence in turn allows the abuse to continue and even perhaps escalate. 'In other cases, a lack of understanding the crossover point from non-criminal actions and activities into abuse also allows the cycle to continue. For example an abused Christian wife may hold a distorted view of the husband’s biblically authorized position as head of the home and thus allow the husband to tyrannize her and the family. 'God is opposed to all abuse. In condemning murder, Jesus declared that thinking angry thoughts toward another is subject to divine judgment (Matthew 5:21, 22). It is the responsibility of the abuse victim, or of anyone (including the church) who becomes aware of such abuse, to report the abuse with the hope of stopping it. If it involves parties in the local church, the pastor should be notified. Depending on the state in which the actions take place, the witness may have a legal obligation to report the abuse to a civil authority. Christians who report abuse must then refrain from gossip. Too often additional damage is unintentionally inflicted on those involved in abuse simply as a result of idle talk. (...) 'The innocent must be protected, and the abuse must be stopped and the abuser dealt with appropriately.' ____________________ 'The above statement is based upon our common understanding of scriptural teaching.' http://www.ag.org/top/beliefs/relationships/relations_08_abuse.cfm |
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