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1 | Battered Helpmate | Col 3:19 | kalos | 143957 | ||
Spouse Abuse Bible Study Battered Helpmate by Kathi Edwards AMPLIFIED Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives [be affectionate and sympathetic with them] and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful toward them. 'This page contains Biblical help and info for those experiencing spouse abuse or who would like to help a friend with this problem. More specifically, it deals with special issues faced by Christian women in this circumstance. This is not a comprehensive discussion. The Bible Study format requires looking up the indicated scriptures. 'I. ABUSE IS WRONG. husbands not to be harsh Colossians 3:19 husbands to nourish and cherish wives as they would their own bodies Ephisians 5:25-29 peace in relationships Romans 12:18 folly of venting anger Proverbs 14:17 Proverbs 14:29 Proverbs 29:11 'II. ALLOWING SOMEONE TO ABUSE YOU IS WRONG. safety precautions advised Proverbs 33:3 body as temple of Holy Spirit 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 note: This scripture is often used to preach against promiscuity, smoking, and abuse of alcohol and other drugs. It most certainly applies to domestic violence. look to interests of SELF as well as that of others Philippians 2:3,4 love neighbor as SELF Matthew 22:39 'III. FAILURE TO HELP AN ABUSED PERSON IS WRONG social responsibility Proverbs 24:11,12 Proverbs 10:10 Proverbs 31:8 'IV. THE ISSUE OF NO DIVORCE This is a complicated issue for the Christian woman since she is torn be- tween her need for safety and her church's well known stance on divorce. The following scriptures examine the Biblical teaching on the subject: general teaching God hates divorce. Malachi 2:16 Old Testament law allowed it Deuteronomy 24:1-4 Jesus taught against it. Matthew 5:31 Matthew 19:3-9 Mark 10:2-4 exceptions adultery (see teaching of Jesus above) note: Divorce is allowed when a spouse has strayed, but not mandated. Forgiveness and reconcilliation are always Christian goals. a non-Chrsitian spouse married to a Christian wants to leave 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 note: The option for divorce lies only with the non-Christain spouse. The believer should always be working to heal the relationship. separation reconcilliation the goal 1 Corinthians 7:11 note: This seems to be the best Biblical option for the abused Christian woman in view of the fact that it is wrong for her to remain in danger. During the separation the husband needs to seek help with his violence problem so that reconcilliation will be possible. confrontation for the purpose of behavioral reform Leviticus 19:17 Luke 17:3 Galations 6:1 note: If the abuser refuses to seek help, he is essentially saying he wants a divorce, otherwise he would be willing to work toward reconcilliation. If he is a not Christian, let him go. (see exceptions section above). If he professes to be a Christian, there are specific confrontation strategies outlined in Matthew 18:15-17. If all these measures are tried and he still refuses, he is not behaving as a Christian. (A believer would want to be in the will of God.) He may therefore be dealt with in the same manner as an unbeliever. (see exceptions section above) 'V. THE ISSUE OF SUBMISSION This is another complicated issue for the abused Christian women. The "obey" part of the marriage vow is often misunderstood to mean that the women shoud be supressed, when the intent is actually cooperation.' ____________________ http://members.tripod.com |
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2 | Battered Helpmate | Col 3:19 | kalos | 143961 | ||
Is abuse an acceptable reason for divorce? '...The Bible is silent on the issue of marital abuse as a reason for divorce, although it is obvious that God despises the mistreatment of wives by their husbands (Colossians 3:19, 1Peter 3:7, Ephesians 5:25-33). Abuse should not be tolerated by anyone. No one should have to live in an abusive environment, whether it be from a family member, friend, employer, caregiver, or stranger. Physical abuse is against the law, and the authorities should be the first ones contacted if this occurs. 'The best way to prevent ending up feeling trapped in an abusive marriage is to get to know a potential spouse before making the commitment to marry. The signs of being an abuser are manifested in one's personality. These “red flags” are always there, but are often overlooked or even ignored when attraction and infatuation take over. These signs can include: irrational jealousy, the need to be in control, a quick temper, attempts to isolate the other person from his or her friends and family, drug or alcohol abuse, and disrespect for their partner's boundaries, privacy, personal space, or moral values. 'A wife (or husband) who is being abused should get herself, and any children, out of the situation immediately and find a new temporary home. I can find nothing in the Bible to indicate that separation (not divorce) in this instance would be wrong. Although friends and family will likely tell the woman (or man) to immediately file for divorce, God places a much higher value on marriage than the world does.' ____________________ http://www.gotquestions.org/abuse-divorce.html |
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