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1 | How do you deal with insults? | 2 Cor 12:10 | Aixen7z4 | 102765 | ||
Does anyone have a practical method for dealing with insults? If you have experience in this area, and if you have found a way to deal with it, especially within the church, please share. | ||||||
2 | How do you deal with insults? | 2 Cor 12:10 | khuck | 102768 | ||
There were 2 members of our church who used to constantly insult my clothing. LOL Through prayer and patience, God actually taught me, that by keeping my eyes on Him, and not being steamed and complaining about their little barbs, he would give me what to say. (And believe you me... they used to get me hot under the collar!) One Sunday we were preparing to go to downtown Los Angeles, to feed the homeless and give them clothing. One of them looked at me and commented, "Sister Huck, girl how are you dressed?" The other chimed in with, "God called us to feed the homeless, not look like them." My heart and mind being in the right place... I just blurted out, "Oh come now girls, God is interested in the condition of my heart and not my clothes." And the clothing insults ceased. ... and might I add that the 3 of us are very close now. I noticed when I let insults from members of the church get me angry, I am not able to overcome the problem. But when I allow God to have the reins of my heart and mind... I always have the words to quench the fire. Here is a final more serious situation I endured. My mother who was very well loved and an active teacher in the church (don't get me wrong she was not perfect or anything) was diagnosed with lung cancer in 1997. Many of the saints prayed for her recovery and she did quite well through 1998. In May of 1999 on Mother's Day, she took a turn for the worse. The Pastor's wife who was one of Mama's closest friends took up the cause to pray for her healing. (through prayer groups and personal prayer) She would call me often and ask if we were praying for and with Mama. I told her we were. Mama died on the 2nd of June 1999 in my arms. When I called to inform the Pastor and his wife, she said our family should have prayed with more faith. (She was wrought with tears and grief) She accused our family of not having the faith to move God to heal my mother. I knew she was just grieving and looking to vent. The insult came when the Pastor called me 3 days before Mama's funeral, and said, "You all really need to work on your faith. If there had been more faith in your prayers, your mother would have been healed. (That really hurt me) I prayed about it, I did not want to go to the funeral mad as a hatter, plus Mama's final arrangements were my responsibility so I already had enough on my mind. When I spoke at Mama's funeral, God brought to my heart the words she shared with me before she passed into the arms of Jesus. I first reminded them of who we were in Christ. And I told them that my mother did not want you all to feel sorry for our loss or her death. Our loss is truly her gain. (as the Apostle Paul taught) then I turned to the pulpit and said; some of you think our faith was not strong enough to move the Lord to heal her... but my mother wanted you all to know in the event she should die, your prayers had been answered, God has given her the HIGHEST HEALING, she is with HIM forevermore. The next day the Pastor called me and apologized for the remarks that were made, going as far as to admit, that he'd taken his eyes off of the infinate goal of the Believer... ETERNAL LIFE WITH CHRIST! And for a brief moment he was looking at the finite world. We are closer than ever these days, the next year the day after the first anniversary of Mama's passing, his wife died of a massive stroke, my mother's words helped him and his family to see the eternal value of their loss. Take the insults to Jesus, He really understands and knows how to make it of greater value to all concerned. -khuck |
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3 | How do you deal with insults? | 2 Cor 12:10 | Aixen7z4 | 102774 | ||
I am so happy to hear this. It is a success story, and may the Lord continue to give you victory, my sister. But there are some of us who do not deal with the situation so successfully. Some people have stopped going to church because they have been insulted there. Some have left this forum because they have been insulted here. Saved people do not give up easily. There are some people reading this that you know not of. The sneak back in to see what's going on. But they are afraid to take part lest they be insulted again. You know that it hurts when they are told that their questions are stupid, etc. I hope that some suggestions here will show them how to deal with it. We should not be suggesting that those who have hurt them should repent. They probably won’t do it anyway. They will probably blame the victim for being so sensitive. But if you have suggestions for how people can deal with hurt from other Christians, please share. |
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4 | How do you deal with insults? | 2 Cor 12:10 | khuck | 102798 | ||
Though my previous post was rather lengthy I would sum it up with the following suggestion for how people can deal with hurt from other Christians. Insults can be very hurtful when they come from within the ranks the Body of believers. Yet it is likely that most of us would not abandon of familys or jobs due to such an insult. When my immediate family members insult me, I don't think to myself, "I am packing my bags, my husband and children are mean." I may be hurting but because my heart and mind are on the bigger picture, I choose to stay and work on the circumstance. (no matter who is wrong) If a patron comes into my salon and they hate their hairstyle, and insult our efforts, I do not close the business. My heart and mind are on the bigger picture. (LIVELIHOOD -LOL) Not only my livelihood but also that of the employees. I work to resolve the complaint to the patron's satisfaction. (no matter who is wrong) Therefore I guess my initial point was that nothing is resolved when we as Christians have hurt one another. Waiting for an apology, bolting from the Church or expelling another true Believer from the assembly will not resolve the conflict. (There is a bigger picture) If Jesus had waited around for an apology from those who hurled verbal insults at Him, or those who criticized His doctrine... we would still be waiting for Him to go to calvary and there would be no ransom paid for our transgressions. But God saw fit to take all that which Jesus endured and He brought it together for the good of mankind, even the whole world. I suggest keeping our eye on Him to the best of our ability in Him. We are more than conquerors, In Christ. Romans 8 27 And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God's will. 28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Don't you just Love Him? -khuck |
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5 | Don't you just love him? | 2 Cor 12:10 | Aixen7z4 | 102802 | ||
Do I love him? Yes, I do. Do I love you? You didn’t ask, but I don't mind saying it, and I trust I don't get you into trouble for saying it. I do. You are wonderful, and I trust that your contribution will be a help to many. Just so you know I hear you, I think you said we should keep our eyes on the big picture. We should work to resolve the complaint. Also, we should keep our eyes on Jesus. This last one reminded me of a passage in Hebrews: Let us run the race, looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. Now I wonder how others cope. Do they feel justified in closing shop or staying out? And what of those who fight fire with fire? I would like more contributions for myself and for those I serve. Are there any other overcomers on this forum? |
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6 | Don't you just love him? | 2 Cor 12:10 | Aixen7z4 | 102869 | ||
Even if I have to answer my own question, I will do this. Even if there are no other takers, I will prolong this, because it is of practical importance. I get back to your post, my sister, because there is so much wisdom in it. Though I have doted on other aspects, let me now focus on this one: Don’t wait for an apology. I confess I have done that. We learn bad habits and they sometimes stick. I have seen people come back with an apology and I learned that it could happen, that it might happen, and I have waited for it. Strange thing I have seen is that an offer of an apology is sometimes what elicits one. Say to him, “I want to apologize for anything I did” and he says, “I am the one to apologize”. Say nothing, he says nothing. And I have seen it happen after many years. Continue to attend. Continue to be kind. Remain approachable, and it can happen. Withdraw, and they will blame you. But enough about experience. What does the Scripture say? Jesus did not wait for an apology. It touches my heart. “If Jesus had waited around for an apology from those who hurled verbal insults at Him, ... we would still be waiting for Him to go to Calvary”. Yes. Even when he was on the cross, at Calvary, they were insulting him. And they that passed by reviled him, wagging their heads, … Likewise also the chief priests mocking him, … The thieves also, which were crucified with him, cast the same in his teeth. And we must follow his example. For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth: Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously: Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. Heb 13:13 Let us go forth therefore unto him without the camp, bearing his reproach. But does that mean to leave a church or any company of believers? I do not think so. But that’s another subject. What does it mean? Let us discuss that, together, sometime. Hang in there. |
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7 | Don't you just love him? | 2 Cor 12:10 | khuck | 102896 | ||
It's me again Noble, The best way to deal with insults and wrongs committed against us is through God's perfect Love working in us. (The key to these verses is that they are describing God, Who is in fact Love.) "Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy; it is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited--arrogant and inflated with pride; it is not rude (unmannerly), and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking ; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it--pays no attention to a suffered wrong. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness , but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best about every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances and it endures everything (without weakening). Love never fails--never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end" (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). This I believe is the whole sum of the answer. Yes... I love Him!!! -kathy |
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