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1 | Should a divorced person remarry? | Matt 5:31 | newoldstock | 92518 | ||
Should a divorced man or woman remarry? Mat.5:31-32 has perplexed me. I am married to a woman for 33 years now who was previously married and divorced for reasons other than unfaithfullness. We are Christians so I know that God has forgiven this "sin" (was it?), but do we continue to sin by remaining married? Would it be a greater sin to now divorce due to continuing to make each other Adulterers and Adulteresses? | ||||||
2 | Should a divorced person remarry? | Matt 5:31 | justme | 92522 | ||
Newoldstock: Welcome to the Forum! I could not count the number of people who have asked this same question. When someone asks this question there is always some deeper problem that have brought this questioin to the surface. This is a Bible forum, not an advice or problem solving Forum. I say that so you will know there may be advice given that conflicts with each other. The best answer is to seek a professional Christian counselor. On a simple quick answer, that is only intended to help quiet you feelings until you see a counselor, I offer the following. No where in Scripture do I find credience for divorcing your wife of 33 years. If you and your wife feelthat you married 33 years ago, was sinful 33 years ago, then both of you confess that sin now, and seek Gods forgivness for back then. All sin is forgiven the same way. See 1 John 1:9. There is no reason to cause a brake up of a marriage that has lasted most of your life. There is a large percent of older adults that have sinned as younger adults, and need Gods forgivness too. To divorce your wife woulf be a sin, meaning that you have not learned from your past. I would encourage you to make a solid promise to live a Christlike life for as long as you both shall live. Is this not what you went into your marriage covenant saying? Friend there is no turning back, stay the course, get some real professional Christian Counseling, to put this behind you both, so you can enjoy your relatinoship with Chrsit as the center of your marriage. I wish you peace and blessings. justme |
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3 | Should a divorced person remarry? | Matt 5:31 | newoldstock | 92537 | ||
Justme, thanks for the kind welcome. I guess, that I have a problem with this scripture. I still question should people get divorced? If they do, should they remarry? Divorce occurs often amoung Christians, especially high ratio amoung pastors that I have been aquainted with. It is hard to stop a divorce when the other person wants it badly enough. You can try counseling, begging, changing habits, and standing on your head, but divorce may be inevitable. I was being facicious and debating Mat.5:32, when I said "would it be a greater sin to divorce now?". I have no intention of divorcing my wife of 33 years. Is it better not remarry and "burn in passion" than to remarry and commit adultery? Since this follows scripture on cutting off your hand and gouging out your eye, could these verses also be hyperbole? God Bless. | ||||||
4 | Should a divorced person remarry? | Matt 5:31 | justme | 92579 | ||
newoldstock: I would prefer to widen the scope to come to a general statements that cause divocce, rather than address specfic instances. All divorces are sin. Every divorce has hardness of heart. Never is the fault 100 percent the other persons fault. From these points which I would call foundational, grow into other problems. I do not believe there is a marriage so bad that can not be restored to a new standard of what a Christian marriage should be. There are marriages that because one or both partners have crossed the point beyond salvaging anything, and it has become too late for anything to change. Marring someone else would be one example. The statistics for making a first time marriage for both partners are equal for Christians and the non christian about 50 percent fail. Second time marriages are closer to 70 percent failure rate. If there are children involved in the 2nd marriage with former marriage partners sharing cuustody, the failure rate is higher yet. Third time marriages as you might think are a bad risk. There are other factors that enter into the picture. If the couple lived together marriage, had children before getting married, either has a large debt load, and then any personality disorders make for very difficult times ahead. Please note there is a 1 in third chance for Christians, the bride is pregnant. These are very serious times we live in. Today there is no shame for Christians who live together, have children before marriage, and divorce at the same rate as the world does. One might think that with the pain of divorce, that ppeople would be less likely to remarry, and be even more cautious. Not so. It is not uncommon for a person going into court to finalize their divorce, to be engaged and living with a new future husbannd or wife, and they have a blended family already. Remarriage brings all the problems both parties had in the first marriage, most of the time. If there were children from the first marriage that new husband or wife will have to deal with the past husband or wife as long as the children live. If people would wweigh all these problems with a clear rational head, they might just think it's easier to work on the marriage before they even think about divorce. All divorces come with wounds and scars, that may take a lifetime to mend. Divorce is not the easy way out by any means. Divorced women with daughters, who remarry often place theeir daughters as risk, never giving thought that the new Mr. Right might asult these girls someday. I have never heard a mother in this suation say, they remotly thought Mr. Right would even be possible to think of such a thing. I hope this opens someones eyes that might be thinking about a divorce, and or remarriage. These are hard facts that few ofus think of in the heat of anger, or passion. Perhaps this is more of what you were looking for, I hope this sheds some practical help. I would liketo find out what you think. Blessings. justme |
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5 | Should a divorced person remarry? | Matt 5:31 | newoldstock | 92582 | ||
Justme, excellent thought process. You covered almost every base. Your answer is pretty much how I feel about divorce and remarriage. Pray, think, and envolve God in your marriage. You and your spouse become one and God makes 2. Thanks, for your answer. God Bless you. | ||||||
6 | Should a divorced person remarry? | Matt 5:31 | justme | 92690 | ||
newold stock" I caution you that no answer by any human is authoritive, ONLY the WORD of GOD has the total and complete answer to life's most simple problems to the deepest challenges we can ever face. If you are not a real Bible student anyone can swing you over to a viewpoint that proves what you are feeling. May I suggest you real all of 1 Corinthains. Take notes and ask that the Holy Spirit guide you to complete confidence in what the Word of God says. That friend it the way to answer any pproblems in life. May God guide your path in growing to become mature in Christ. justme |
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