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1 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | nana1977 | 170968 | ||
A friend of mine married a person, who was sick and incapable of any sexual activity. He did not tell her about that before. It has been over a year that they just "live" together. She is a believer, and does not want to do anything against the will of God. But it is really hard, do you think if she separates it will be perceived as a divorce and hateful in the eyes of God! Please, base your answers on Scripture! | ||||||
2 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | kalos | 170969 | ||
There are only two Scriptural grounds for divorce. Neither is for sexual dysfunction of one's marital partner. The NT gives two grounds for divorce -- two, not merely one. Divorce is permissible on the grounds of adultery and that of desertion. 'God's utter hatred of divorce is very clear in Scripture. 'Nonetheless, there are two extraordinary cases in which Scripture teaches that God does permit divorced people to remarry. 'First, note that Jesus Himself included this exception clause: "Whosoever shall put away his wife, *except it be for fornication*, and shall marry another, committeth adultery" (Matt. 19:9, King James Version, emphasis added). He allows an exception in this one case, only "because of the hardness of your hearts" (Matt. 19:8). Clearly, Jesus is treating divorce as a last resort, only to be sought in the case of hard-hearted adultery. 'The apostle Paul allows one more reason for divorce: if an unbelieving spouse abandons a believer, the believer is under no obligation in such a case (1 Cor. 7:14). This would free the abandoned spouse to remarry. 'But we must emphasize that apart from those two specific, exceptional cases, divorce is not sanctioned in Scripture.' www.gty.org/IssuesandAnswers/ archive/divorce.htm |
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3 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | Emmaus | 170974 | ||
nana1977, What you are decribing may be grounds for a legal annulment. No marriage has ever been consummated. There is literally no "union." And she was married under false pretenses if he did not tell her of his impotence. |
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4 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | jlhetrick | 170997 | ||
Hello Emmaus, You are talking legal talk and not scripture. Nothing in the bible (that I am aware of) qualifies a marriage as being fully "consummated" only after the physical act of sex has ocurred (as you seem to be saying is the case). What does "false pretenses" have to do with it? False pretenses is not mentioned as a legitimate reason for divorce in the Scriptures. So nanna's description may certainly be grounds for an annulment in the family court system of her state. But it is not legal grounds based on scripture (she did ask for bible relevent answers). Jeff |
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5 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | Emmaus | 171000 | ||
Jeff, Please tell me scripturally how a man and a woman can become "one flesh" i.e. married, without consumating their union "in the flesh." We are men not angels. the fact that something is recoggnized in law does not mean that it may not also be scriptural. Emmaus |
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6 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | jlhetrick | 171006 | ||
Hello Emmaus: I think the problem you are having in understanding marriage is that you are under the impression that a man and woman make themselves "one flesh" by having sex. This is far short from understanding that it is God who makes them one flesh. I believe you have taken the meaning of this and assigned a human action as accomplishing what scripture says God does. you write that because something is recognized in law does not mean it may not also be scriptural. Yes, I agree. That was not my point at all. My point was simply that because the law of man may provide an escape, God's law trumps man's law. For Chrisitians, divorce is only acceptable based on God's approved reasons. Man's law, for example, allows for divorce when a husband and wife have "differences" they can not resolve. Does God's word allow for this? It's really not a hard issue when scripture is applied, Jeff |
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7 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | Emmaus | 171012 | ||
Jeff, If nana was your daughter would you be giving this advice to her in her situation? Do you have a daughter? This is not a theoretical question. God law is that we not lie when entering into sacred bonds. A marriage vow that is based on a lie is no vow at all but fraud. It is akin to perjury. It is really a hard issue when scripture is applied selectively. Emmaus |
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8 | Divorce for no sexual life ever - OK? | Matt 19:9 | jlhetrick | 171014 | ||
Hello Emmaus: If nana was my daughter of course I would be offering her advise in this situation. Yes I have a daughter. In fact, I have four of them. Two of them have children of their own. The other two may eventually marry men that are incapable of performing sexually. Or, may not be willing to perform sexually. My advise to both would be that the scripture does not allow for divorce based on this alone. Even if they have yet to involve the sexual act. You write: "God law is that we not lie when entering into sacred bonds. A marriage vow that is based on a lie is no vow at all but fraud. It is akin to perjury." A person's committment to marriage (and love) is based on his/her own comittment and not what may or not be true or a lie in the other person. Jesus Christ represents the perfect example of this kind of committment and love (Romans 5:8). If I found that something that I believed about my wife (a major thing that drew me closer to her and encouraged my desire to marry her) turned out to have been a lie, would I be freed from the bonds of marriage? Or perhaps you would argue that I was never bonded in marriage with her because it was based on her lie. Well, that would mean I have been committing adultry and living a sexually imoral life for going on 16 years now. When we try to make sex the foundation of marriage, we not only find ourselves in conflict with clear teachings of God's word; we find ourselves in conflict with logic and common sense. Help! Jeff PS. Please refer to my upcoming post to Kalos in this thread. |
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