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1 | Forgive or confront - which to choose? | Matt 18:1 | kalos | 739 | ||
How can we know when it is better to forgive or to confront? (See 1 Cor 5:1-13 for a Biblical example of a situation where this question would apply. Note I am not asking for an explanation or exegesis of 1 Cor 5. I merely cite it as an example.) | ||||||
2 | Forgive or confront - which to choose? | Matt 18:1 | Brent Douglass | 740 | ||
First of all, choose to forgive. Christ chose to die for us while we were yet his enemies. You and I both have a much deeper debt of sin before God than anyone has toward either of us. If we don't begin with forgiveness, we should pray in terror every time we ask God to "forgive us our debts (or trespasses) as we forgive our debtors". If we refuse to forgive "those who trespass against us" then we are asking God to hold our sins to our account and condemn us to hell. Is this extreme? How does it compare with Jesus's teaching in Mat 18:23-35? The guidelines for confronting a brother who sins (Mat 18:15-18) must be read in the context of Mat 18:23-25, as well. When Paul (in Eph 6:27-28) tells us to "be angry and sin not" by not letting "the sun set" on our anger, there is no mention of confrontation with the other person. This is a call to a forgiveness in order to "not give the devil an opportunity"; it serves our spiritual interest by preventing bitterness from clouding our ability to love. Once we have forgiven, we are ready to consider whether confrontation is beneficial. Confrontation is for the benefit of our brother (or sister) who has done something wrong, not for the purpose of "letting off steam" or verbal retaliation. As in Mat 18:15, where the purpose is to "[win] your brother" back to obedience and growth in his relationship with God. It's possible that Paul had this in mind in Gal 5:19-21 when he listed specific sins that are practiced by those who "will not inherit" the kingdom of heaven. The increasingly strong convictions and confrontations presented in Matthew 18 are meant to draw the offender to confession, repentance and restoration. Is this not how the Spirit convicts and confronts us, as well? He confronts us to the degree necessary and the degree we are willing to receive. He is to be our model. I suspect that the final and unequivocable rejection of this persistent and faithful conviction ("slamming the door in the Spirit's face" if you will) is what is meant by the blasphemy against the Spirit, but that's another question. |
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3 | Forgive or confront - which to choose? | Matt 18:1 | kalos | 741 | ||
My question pertained to the issue of church discipline, something we don't see much of these days. Your answer was right on target. Thank you for a very wise, well-thought-out answer. | ||||||
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kalos | ||
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Brent Douglass | ||
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kalos | ||
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oneluke | ||
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botie0805 | ||
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Pastor Chuck |