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1 | handling relationships as a Christian | Matthew | gab | 85934 | ||
Hi, Praise be to our Lord Jesus Christ. I feel so confused on what to do as a christian in this matter. My partner(23 yrs old) and I(25 yrs old, we are not married) I became saved first and then I drew her to Christ as well. She is the only one in her family that is saved they all dont believe in God. We both used to be in the world till we became saved. We do not live together and she lives just about and 2hrs train journey away. We have been together for about 2 and half years. I was a bit more spritually higher than she was being that I did all the encouragement and she was very diligent. We both were in the ushers department and she was dedicated she used to come to church 3 times a month from were she lived. Everything was fine. And she has seen the power of God manifest in her life. God has put her in University(in her final year soon), provided her with a job, she bought a new car, she stooped drinking, going clubbing. God really made a lot of changes in both of us Then she met this woman at work about 6months ago. The woman is 31 yrs of age and my partner is 23 yrs. This woman was a non beliver. Since my partner meant this woman she as really changed. She has stopped coming to church, she nearly broke up with me within this time in which I spoke to her if this is what she really wanted and she said no then we got back together. She has stopped praying with me and reading the bible with me, she doesnt come and see me anymore or come to church. She used to tell me everything about this woman but as stopped telling me things. And I did warn her but i didnt want her to think I was ruling her by telling her what friends she can have. The woman has 3 kids with her boyfriend(they are not married) and before my Partner changed towards me she used to tell me how the woman says she hates her boyfriend, her life and all sorts of negative things. Since my partner has been with this woman she has started drinking again, going out clubbing again and doest want to hear anything about God or church. I tried to work things out because I knew this was an attack on our relationship and was a spiritual battle for the salvation of my partner. At this stage in the relationship the woman seems to have a great hold on her that she is always talks to the woman more than she talks to me. She talks to the woman like 5hrs in a go. And everytime I try and talk she gets very rude to, talks to me like dirt, drops the phone on me and she gets defensive about the woman which leads to arguements. I then arranged at one time to come down and see her(at this point we were still actively together) booked my train ticket, packed my bags etc. She then phoned me from the womans house and told me not to come down at that day reason being she was going out with the woman becasue she just finished her exams. I then replied to her which is more important us working things out between us or you going out. At this point I ws quite annoyed and told her if I didnt come down today that it was over between us. She rudely said she didnt care. My apologies on the long question. But what can I do as a christian. After this incident she called be 5 days later saying she wanted to say hello and see how I was. I spoke to her briefly and she didnt even apologise or mentioned how she treated me or even said that she wants to work things out. She wanted me to make the first move as usual but I didnt. She hasnt called be back since about two days now from the date of this posting. I know she wants me to make the first move because I havent called her either since the incident. But I know if I call her she will say she wants to work things out and then think im easy by thinking she can get away with anything and all il do is just get angry for few days. But this time I have held out much longer. I dont know what to do? I really Love my partner and we have both been very faithful to each other and to God before she met this woman Should I simply forget about her? Please, Please any advice on what to do as a Christian and what the scripture says will be greatly appreciated. regards, gab |
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2 | handling relationships as a Christian | Matthew | TheCurtMan | 85935 | ||
Greetings Gab, I'm known as the CurtMan. Unfortunately, sometime God's Will for our lives and I emotions tend to go in different directions. Sometime ago I met this young lady that I really did love. We made plans to get married. We broke up three days before the wedding. I was shattered beyond belief. She wasn't a Christian, I called myself one although my actions said differently. Shortly thereafter I met the woman that God had intended for me to meet. We've been happily married for nine plus years. Had I married that first lady, I probably never would have met my wife. It's not easy remaining in the Will of the Lord, but it is the best place to be if you're his child. I can not advise you on you next step in refference to your girlfriend because your emotions are involved. However; I STRONGLY suggest two things 1. Take your problem to God in prayer and be willing to follow His leading, I mean afterall, He do know best. 2. Don't just read, but study and meditate on Matt. 12:45- Matt. 13:23. Just outta curiosity, are you 100 percent sure that this is the women that your Heavenly Father would have you to be with?? I mean if you're His child He's interested in your obedience, and if He has someone else lined up for you and you reject that person for this one; or if you marry this woman and she continues to disrespect you in other areas, then might not your marriage ends up with a divorce?? And do you know how God feels about divorce?? |
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3 | handling relationships as a Christian | Matthew | gab | 85942 | ||
Hi CurtMan, Thanks for taking time to reply me. As this is very important to me. My partner was wonderful before she met this woman. I really what I say that she was very diligent in the things of God. I just dont understand how someone can change in a space of a few months after being so wonderful most of the time in our relationship. I dont know wether this is a battle I Have to pray against so has to win her soul/salvation back(i wont deny a minute that I dont still want her back because I do). This woman is also the only friend she has because all her other friends have always taken advantage of her. I know how kind hearted my partner is and I have also known that she is very easily influenced beacsue im the only guy she's been with thats never taken advantage of her. But since this aquintace started with her and this woman and also things have rapidly changed its like she doesnt know God anymore. I would have found it easy to just count it as the woman not for me if she hadnt been so caring towards me before she met this woman. And I mean it when I say my Partner has done so much for me, our church and our lives. I dont know what to do? I have tried to make her come down and see our pastor and I still can but I want her to be the one to make the move for once? regards, gab |
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4 | handling relationships as a Christian | Matthew | TheCurtMan | 86061 | ||
Dear Gab, Trust me when I say I know how you feel. You must now handle this situation in a mature christian fashion. You pray about the situation. God is the only one who have the answers and the ability to heal your hurt. Just know that His soultion may not meet your expectations. Have you taken the time to read Matt. 13:1-23?? It's a parable about three soils. The explination to this parable is founded in v.18-23. Within the explanation, you will probable discover the reason why your girlfriend is acting the way she is. My prayers will be with you. The CurtMan |
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5 | handling relationships as a Christian | Matthew | gab | 86087 | ||
Hi CurtMan, I have read it and I understand. I really wanted to help my partner through this but I realised I was trying to use my own strength and abilities instead of living it all to GOD. I actaully spoke to my partner again and she has started drinking and getting drunk and going out clubbing again(with that woman) like we both used to be before. She said she had no feelings for me anymore(the reason I dont know) I have made up my mind to leave her and put her in my prayers. But I have to say I really wanted GOD to turn her back around to how devoted she was before. My relationship before my partner now ended up in a breakup as well but I was deep in world then(I didnt know Jesus then). And I got over that quite easily by just looking for other woman and sleeping around. That was when I met this partner in which in which we both gave our lives to Christ becase we found out that we both had a lot in common and someone showed us Jesus Christ was the answer. I just feel disappointed and almost feel responsible for the way she has back sliding after a year and half of being devoted to GOD. I really felt attached together because we both started the same way in world, gave our lives to GOD together and the world just swifted her by assigning that woman on her. I am going to stay single for a while and pray to our Master Jesus Christ to show me the way to seek him deeper and to also strengthen me and keep me away from the world. May GOD in is infinite mercy bless and strengthen us(and anyone else in the world going through the same problem) through is beloved blessed Son our LORD Jesus Christ. Amen regards, gab |
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6 | handling relationships as a Christian | Matthew | TheCurtMan | 86234 | ||
Hey Gab, There is this story in the bible about a women that lost her son to injustice. She went to the King because she wanted justice. She wanted him deal with the matter. The King kinda paid her no mind at first, so she kept going back, again; and again; and again. Finally the King gave this women what she wanted just so she would leave him alone in the matter. You ever tried that with God?? Keep your partner lifted up in prayer. CONSISTENTLY. The Lord wills that none should perish, so keep praying for her salvation, or her return to the Lord, and you might be surprise at the results, God has the tendicy of going over and above our expectations on occasions. |
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