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1 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39384 | ||
Joe, Have you ever heard of Eastman Curtis? He has a church in Tulsa called "Destiny". It is a wonderful place. A loving, nurturing place with many associate pastors. They preach with Love, not condemnation. thank you so much for your support and understanding! | ||||||
2 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39383 | ||
Tuli, you are correct, you only have my side of the story. I only told you facts about him. I didn't tell you an opinion. The judge seemed to think I had plenty of reasons for that restraining order. I have police reports too, they are very unbiased. Is there any justification for hitting your wife? Can there be another side to that story that can make it more palatable? | ||||||
3 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39110 | ||
yes I have. I really enjoy it. I am currently reading a book called "escaping Co-Dependant Christianity" It is very informative. I am realizing now that my former church was VERY unhealty, and controlling. I am still shunned in that church for leaving my husband. | ||||||
4 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39092 | ||
I AGREE!!! He's not judgmental like alot of the Christians I have seen posting in this forum! | ||||||
5 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39083 | ||
Thank you so much Joe. I will pick that book up! It's incredible to me how people can be such harsh judges and throw so many scriptures around. It's amazing how many people in this forum take Christian LAWS and punish people with them. | ||||||
6 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39061 | ||
You sure are a condemning one aren't you. I seek no council? HMMM...You know me well don't you..haha. I had to accept emails because I had to make arrangements for visitation for my kids...anymore judgements you want to pass on me! Why don't you address me straight forward? Why exactly am I co-dependant? Are you trying to say I don't stand for Christ? Exactly how do you know that? I'm glad you werent appointed my Judge! Until you know all of the facts I wouldn't Judge. | ||||||
7 | can the abused wife (spouse) remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39060 | ||
Searcher56, I completely disagree with you. It is a novel idea you have there, to just "get counseling with your spouse." New idea...I'll have to try that! If a man is hard hearted enough to hit a woman, do you really think he is just going to say "OK...I know I have a problem honey, lets all go to counseling." It's not that easy. If he had been that easy to deal with I could have stayed with him. :) To say that a Chrisitan wife of an abusive (CHRISTIAN)husband has to be punished for the rest of her life by being made to be single, is quite contrary to God's nature. I don't think God wants us to suffer because someone else CHOOSES to live a sinful life. |
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8 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39055 | ||
Once again you have taken my words and twisted them. I didn't say the Bible didn't apply to Western Cultures. I said it was written in an Eastern Culture...Example: Women should not speak in church,.... as for this statement "So the scriptures are tradition! They do not apply to certain situations! Then God is not all knowing, what a shameful thought! If it is true, we are in a lot of trouble! We are on the wrong boat!" YES! Scriptures such as "Divorce is for the hard hearted." "God hates divorce". This is all true...BUT..Those scriptures are thrown at people that truly can't do anything BUT leave, for thier own protection. I listened to someone throw those scriptures at me, I stayed as long as I could. I put ME, and my children at risk, because someone said I was hard hearted if I left. You also twisted my words by saying this : "you did not appreciate God's help and now you think you had nothing to do with it?" THAT is a very condemning statement! I was 16 years old, and obviously wasn't at the peak of my Christianity, so...NO, I may not have heard God that clearly. I as PREGNANT, so what else was I supposed to do. You are clearly stating this was MY fault because I didn't listen to God... Is that the Loving nature of God? God wants us to PAY for our sins? Is that what you are saying? Because I thought Jesus died on the cross to save us from that. I have forgiven my ex husband by the way. Any anger I carry..Is when people don't quite understand the impact that their scriptures make on people. I would not have suffered many of my injuries if I had left him instead of listening to someone tell me I had a hard heart. |
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9 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39028 | ||
I'm not understanding what you are trying to say to me. Yes I carry alot of anger, when I see people attempting to have answers for every situation when every situation is different. I am sorry I am so defensive, I DID tell elders and peers in the church once or twice. I even told one of our mutual friends. They told me, "Well, didn't your wounds heal? just ask God to change him, because divorce is for the hard hearted." Sometimes scriputres are taken out of context. YES I believe that scripture, but if you are being constantly hurt, then NO I don't believe it applies in that situation. The Bible was written in an Eastern Country, during times that were a little different. Sitations are all different, so different scriptures apply to different people in different situations. Yes God hates divorce, but this was out of my control. He was much different before the twins were born. I didn't pray about it before we got married, I was pregnant. So...Does this mean it is my fault? That I made a mistake? Now I have to stay with him and suffer? |
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10 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 39008 | ||
There is something about abusive men that everyone should know. Especially Christian abusive men. They hide everything. If you tell anyone, then you get in big trouble. YES I left him. I had to get a restraining order, and the Church I go to completely shunned me because they didn't know why I overreacted like that. I was in the praise and worship band and I never let anyone know what was going on. When I left, I told a few people, they helped me get an apt. and get my kids out safely. To this day...1 year after the fact. I am still shunned by the pastor, and all of his friends. When my friend was trying to help me, the pastor's wife told her to leave me alone, that she was getting into the middle of a big "Marriatal fight" and that someday I (shelly) would see the light and get this wildness out of my system. I am bombarded by scriptures from my exhusband (He emails them to me) about what an adultress harlot I am. He has said he was sorry on occassion, but...he continues to pretend to be a good christian man, while sleeping with tons of women, and getting drunk daily. | ||||||
11 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 38937 | ||
I know you didn't just say, "Isn't God there to protect you." WHOA you really contort things! OK..I should stay...Let's add to my scars. I've been thrown through a glass table, and about paralyzed, I've been thrown through a wall, I have been beaten with an oak rod, ribs broken, so....WHAT IS YOUR POINT? YES God is my protector, but YES God gives us wisdom. Staying would be like a deer standing in headlights knowing they are getting ready to get smashed, but not using the wisdom God gave them to MOVE! I want to see YOU stand in front of a loaded gun, with a cold hearted murderer on the other side, knowing he is getting ready to shoot you. LET"S SEE HOW BRAVE YOU ARE THEN! My husband pulled a gun on me and pulled 2 (no not just one) butcher knives on me at the same time, and YOU TELL ME TO SIT THERE and just "trust God to protect me" Well, God gave me wisdom! and by the way...he was a RHEMA Bible college graduate beginning his PREACHING CAREER! You should be really careful when you give advice on things that you have NO IDEA ABOUT!!! |
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12 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 38914 | ||
I know you aren't talking about the abused wife leaving. If you are, you have a severe problem. Why would you suggest someone who is abused to stay with the husband? If that person you advised DID stay, and was killed by her husband, I'm sure you would carry some guilt for your religious LAWS! | ||||||
13 | can the abused wife (spouse) remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 38913 | ||
I am also an abused wife (Ex wife) I fully believe you can remarry. I have the same problem. People can be so critical when they haven't been put in the situation. I'm sure that if some of these people who don't agree with us, were beaten for years on end...THEY would feel differently. God is supposed to be our father, why would he want to see us get hurt continually! | ||||||
14 | Stay marriaed at all costs? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 38911 | ||
You are right. So many people can point a finger and use scriptures to judge people. I had one person reply saying that I should move out, but make him go to counseling....WELL....if he were that easy to motivate I wouldn't have spent the last 11 years trying to convince him! These people really make me angry. They flippantly spew out bible verses when they don't know what they are talking about! Thank you so much for your concern! |
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15 | Stay marriaed at all costs? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 38866 | ||
No my situation was NOT hypothetical, and YES he was a believer. He even went as far as to graduate from RHEMA Bible College! No one believed me when I told them of the abuse, because of the "Christian front" he put up. I was shunned by my church and all of my friends because I chose to hide his behavior for 11 years. Even my pastor shunned me! | ||||||
16 | Can a divorced person remarry? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 38857 | ||
so because my husband hit me, and verbally attacked me, and I had to leave him, I have to remeain unmarried? I DON"T THINK SO! | ||||||
17 | Stay marriaed at all costs? | 1 Cor 7:15 | shellyhlms | 38856 | ||
so in my situation, my husband abused me physically, emotionally, and spiritually, I could NOT get him to stop, so I should stay in that relationship and keep begging him to quit hurting me, because I am bound by GOD? Is that God's plan for me? I have to suffer for the rest of my life, and possibly get killed because Of Religious LAWS? | ||||||