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1 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39509 | ||
You are asking me if I have taken God out of the equation? No . . . I wouldn't still be on this website trying to find helpful answers to my questions if God wasn't in the question. Obviously, God is the best candidate to settle this. SETTING BOUNDARIES IS A PART OF LIFE EVEN IF YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN. We honor God. We have no desire to seek revenge (where ever you got that from?) and pray every day that He will lead us in this situation. I think I have gained everything I can from your replies (as it appears you are becoming aggitated). |
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2 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39493 | ||
If I did that it would give her another reason to do it again. As far as a "she said you said", my husband (her own son) has been there through all of this and he, too knows the truth. When he came forth and said that her story was incorrect, she said he was brainwashed (by me). It is difficult for me to believe that "honoring your father and mother" means to permit them to do and/or say whatever they want (as hurtful as it may be) in turn for my husband and I to apologize every time. This is our first year of marriage and we are setting boundaries - we don't want to advocate this type of behavior and provide a breeding ground for it to happen again and again. We have humbled ourselves many times by tolerating their hateful phone calls and interactions as we were trying to make peace with them by resolving this. God does know where our hearts are. Thank you for your advice and suggestions. | ||||||
3 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39492 | ||
If I did that it would give her another reason to do it again. As far as a "she said you said", my husband (her own son) has been there through all of this and he, too knows the truth. When he came forth and said that her story was incorrect, she said he was brainwashed (by me). It is difficult for me to believe that "honoring your father and mother" means to permit them to do and/or say whatever they want (as hurtful as it may be) in turn for my husband and I to apologize every time. This is our first year of marriage and we are setting boundaries - we don't want to advocate this type of behavior and provide a breeding ground for it to happen again and again. We have humbled ourselves many times by tolerating their hateful phone calls and interactions as we were trying to make peace with them by resolving this. God does know where our hearts are. Thank you for your advice and suggestions. | ||||||
4 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39449 | ||
There are so many details to the story that it would be hard to tell it all. I don't feel that it is a safe statement that just because others are willing to listen that it means that the parents must have some basis for what they are saying - many times people are willing to listen to things that are sensational - that doesn't mean they are true. The mother is falsely accusing me of yelling at her, calling her names and falsely accusing my husband of letting me do those things right in front of him among other things. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. After being around his family for a short period of time, it became apparent that they talked about people when they weren't around, saying things that weren't nice and usually unfounded (especially the other daughter-in-law). From very early on, I made sure that I watched my words closely and also made sure that my husband was around when I talked to any of them (especially his mother). My husband has been there every time I talked with her - never have I called her names, yelled at her, talked to her in a disrespectful manner, etc. She told her husband and the rest of the family and members of the church these lies about my husband and I for whatever reason. We don't understand either. Even my husband said he doesn't know if she "has it out" for me or what. Eventhough it should not be everyone's concern, my husband has made the statements over and over to those concerned that I did not do the things she is saying I did. None of them will listen to him and say that his words and thoughts are not his own (which implies that I am making him say and do things that he doesn't want to say or do - which is an insult in itself). At this point, I am not sure what an unbiased second party could do for the situation. If she erroneously insists that we did all the things she says we did, how would an unbiased second party change anything. We will never say we did those things because they never happened. We already feel like outcasts of the family with everyone believing her stories and insisting that we don't know what we are talking about. | ||||||
5 | So, to honor lies in married adulthood? | Matt 23:9 | searchingfortruth29 | 39446 | ||
Thank you popdzl. Your replies are very helpful. | ||||||
6 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39349 | ||
We have talked to them numerous times about it. Every time we have tried to respectfully come to some type of resolution we are confronted with harsh words and little effort from their end to reconcile. The only reason my husband and I can come up with (why they are doing this) is because they wanted to make themselves look "right" to the rest of the family and garner pity and support for themselves. Yes, we are able to show that the parents are lying on several things - other things turn into a "he said, she said" type of deal. Our church does not presently have a pastor - actually, we are in search of a new church since they have succeeded in turning many in the church against us. These people that they turned against us (family and others) only listened to his parents stories and formed opinions without even bothering to talk to my husband and I (eventhough are private matters should not be of their concern). Even when people started calling us about it, they would not listen to us when we said the lies aren't true. The parents are still lying and causing trouble for us to this day - and others are following suit. | ||||||
7 | So, to honor lies in married adulthood? | Matt 23:9 | searchingfortruth29 | 39339 | ||
So, to honor them in married adulthood means to do what in this situation? | ||||||
8 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39338 | ||
Yes, they are intentionally lying . . . over . . . and over . . . and over . . . . Besides convincing family members that their lies are true, people from church are now calling us about it because they have been told the lies, too. | ||||||
9 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Not Specified | searchingfortruth29 | 39302 | ||
What does the bible mean when it says to "honor" your father and mother? I am married to a man - his father and mother have treated us terribly by making false accusations against us, telling lies to the entire family about us and getting them to believe all of their lies (and turn on us), talking to us in a disgraceful way, etc. These people are all Christians. What does it mean to "honor" parents who act this way (gossip, spread rumors, lie about us)? | ||||||
10 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Matt 23:9 | searchingfortruth29 | 39328 | ||
What does the bible mean when it says to "honor" your father and mother? I am married to a man - his father and mother have treated us terribly by making false accusations against us, telling lies to the entire family about us and getting them to believe all of their lies (and turn on us), talking to us in a disgraceful way, etc. These people are all Christians. What does it mean to "honor" parents who act this way (gossip, spread rumors, lie about us)? | ||||||
11 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Not Specified | searchingfortruth29 | 39301 | ||
What does the bible mean when it says to "honor" your father and mother? I am married to a man - his father and mother have treated us terribly by making false accusations against us, telling lies to the entire family about us and getting them to believe all of their lies (and turn on us), talking to us in a disgraceful way, etc. These people are all Christians. What does it mean to "honor" parents who act this way (gossip, spread rumors, lie about us)? | ||||||
12 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39336 | ||
What does the bible mean when it says to "honor" your father and mother? I am married to a man - his father and mother have treated us terribly by making false accusations against us, telling lies to the entire family about us and getting them to believe all of their lies (and turn on us), talking to us in a disgraceful way, etc. These people are all Christians. What does it mean to "honor" parents who act this way (gossip, spread rumors, lie about us)? | ||||||