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1 | Trial? | 1 Cor 7:5 | mpa | 66696 | ||
I'm a bit dense. That's what my wife says. I suppose in this case she's right. You state that I know what I should do. Honestly, I don't know, except to endure and expect God to settle the matter Himself. He is blessing my life and ministry beyond my wildest dreams and it is obvious that none of the success is to my credit, only to His Sovereign credit. The only thing I can imagine you might be saying is to actually bring my wife before the elders and expose the situation. With all due respect, I can't believe that doing such a thing would bring glory to God, but only destruction upon a new ministry about to move into a new building. As I said, I can't know what you mean by "the right thing". A trial of my wife would wipe out everything. | ||||||
2 | This is Bible study in real life. | 1 Cor 7:5 | mpa | 66678 | ||
Thanks to you who responded. All I really wanted was some compassion. I'll stay with her because I vowed to stay. She didn't leave the bed room, I was asked to move to the spare room. And here's the kicker, for those wanting to know if we can talk to the pastor about it. I can talk to him anytime I look in the mirror. It is a secret. The church doesn't know and to bring her before the elders would destroy the church, my ministry and result in divorce. I've gone to a couple of fellow pastors about it and had no help except encouragement to just hang in there. She will not submit to authority and my insistence in her doing so will only destroy so many other people in the process. I just wish I had someone I could grieve with because I know that this is a cross I'm just going to have to bear up under. It's not even the lack of sex that drives me to such depths of despair, since I've learned to live without it for so long. It's the lack of simple touch and warmth and affection that makes me feel so alone. Thanks to everyone for your simple level of compassion. This one really has no good solution except perserverance. MPA |
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3 | Of course I'm bitter! You would be too. | 1 Cor 7:5 | mpa | 66645 | ||
I'm always astounded that when I ask my question about my wife breaking God's Word, the answers I get involve my responsibility. Heaven forbid that she should be held accountable for 20 years of pushing her husband away! Heaven forbid that she is the one who is disobedient and actually tempting me to commit adultery! Why do my Christian brothers and sisters never even act like they hurt for my lose? When, after two decades of this and now being pushed into sleeping in a spare bed-room, is the responsibility put on her? What she has done in my mind is a form of adultery, by not cleaving to the one she made vows to. She is the one who has broken her marital vows to cleave to her husband, while demanding now that I sleep in another room because she's more comfortable. Stop telling me that I have to do something. She won't go to counseling. She won't repent because she doesn't think she has done anything wrong. I'm not unattractive, fat, etc. I'm considered good looking and I even bathe daily!!! I have an attractive personality and most people enjoy being around me. It makes me angry that the counsel I get from my Christian brothers and sisters always puts this monkey on my back. I've carried this monkey alone, without help or encouragement to the point of exhaustion. Don't worry. I'll probably not divorce her. It's too late in life and too costly. And if she proceeds me in death I probably won't marry again. But if I did chose to divorce her on the grounds of 2 decades of her unfaithfulness, I defy you to condemn me as sinning. SHE IS THE ONE WHO HAS BEEN UNFAITHFUL! I won't marry again, not because of fear that it would be adultery. This marriage has been enough heart ache. Thanks everyone for all of your understanding and so-called Biblical counsel. Maybe you ought to consider finding the spirit of the law as much as you are committed to finding the letter of the law. Your lonely and heart-broken brother. By-the-way, is there anyone out there who has spent two decades in marital abstinance who wants to tell me I need to try harder? MPA | ||||||
4 | Can I divorce my wife for her neglect? | 1 Cor 7:3 | mpa | 66443 | ||
Can I divorce my wife for years of neglect? | ||||||
5 | Is depriving encouraging adultery? | 1 Cor 7:5 | mpa | 66442 | ||
What should a man do if his wife has deprived him for years. Her reason being that she doesn't feel like it. | ||||||